Is it normal to leave your midwife appointment feeling like a failure before you've even given birth?!!

[Princessangelove]

I am 28 weeks pregnant with twins and am going to be a single Mummy from the start (having made the positive decision to the leave the father at 10 weeks pregnant after a complete change in his character once i fell pregnant, it was a planned pregnancy). Now i may be a first time Mummy but i am no fool and do understand this is going to be a great challenge especailly considering my family are all in another country. But i have great friends whom are willing to support in many ways.
Today i had my 28 weeks growth scan followed by a midwife appointment. Now i was pleased because both babies are growing well but the meeting with the midwife left me feeling totally vulnerable, useless, extremely frightened and unhappy and in floods of tears.
i was told that the pregnancy was at a very easy stage still and i would soon feel much worse. i was then told i would be totally "whacked out" after the birth. That i'd better start arranging a full support team to help me cope. and the list goes on...
She did give some useful contacts for support and volunteers but it was all put across in such a negative way, without one smile from her, that i started crying as she rattled off all the negatives about the rest of the pregnancy, the birth, and the trouble i'd have afterwards with the twins. This only seemed to prove to her that i was really was unable to cope!! I tried to explain that the slightest thing good or bad, makes me cry what with double the hormones but she insisted that i am already not coping!!
All my friends know i am a very positive, strong, independent woman who is calm and focused and has dealt with many severe situations in my life and i have much experience of working with disabled children.
I am so looking forward to having twins and felt totally judged & deflated after todays appointment... Am I just being unreasonable?

Haven't read all the comments but just wanted to offer some support. I don't think you're being unreasonable at all to want to be treated with a little empathy and respect.

Yes having even one baby is bloody hard work but it sounds as if you're well aware of that already. A midwife told me when I was in labour "its going to get much worse before it gets better" and to be honest I didn't really need to know that, I was coping OK and it wasn't as though I'd asked! I understand her trying to get the reality across to you but it sounds like she was awfully cold and insensitive.

If I were you I'd try and put a loose plan into place of some support and frozen meals (really wish I'd done this, we had food in the house but no time to cook) and really do sleep when the babies sleep (its so tempting to do a few chores or just gaze at your gorgeous baby) but I think you've got a realistic but positive attitude and you'll be absolutely fine. Try not to let this midwife get you down, it's in all of your best interests to stay calm and not get too stressed - i think you're doing great!