to sometimes hate what I write on Mumsnet? But to think it also saves my sanity?

[Newmummytobe79]

I am quick tempered ... with myself. No-one except my parents and possibly my DH (sometimes) would describe me as this. Most would consider me a little bit submissive.

I see red very quickly but manage to cover it VERY well with friends/family/work colleagues etc

The red mist usually decends, then I come on here to see if I'm being unreasonable or not - and then by the time I've read all the replies I have usually calmed down, accepted I'm wrong or sit happy in the knowledge I'm right :)

Therefore, when I'm angry, I'm very honest on here but realise that if anyone I know in RL read my rants that I'd feel really, really bad :(

AIBU coming on here for very honest opinions ... with the possibility of upsetting someone in RL with my 10 minutes of rage?

Just feel it's often better getting advice from you all rather than kicking off in RL and having to apologise or argue my case

By the way - most in RL think I'm so easy going ... pah! So thanks MN for keeping me sane ish

Much better to vent on here than to kick off in RL, but if you are worried about someone you know seeing it then maybe write you rant on a scrap of paper which you then tear up and chuck. Then post to get the perspective with a calmer outline of your question.

I'm in a bitch of a mood today. I wish I could self ban for 24hrs so I don't rant like a mad woman.

Maybe we could have our angry mood posts highlighted in red so everyone knows to take them with a pinch of salt.

I think we should have a couple of disclaimers we could highlight at the start of posts, some days.

Or a special smiley to signify bad temper/bad day.

That would help.

Sometimes though it helps to come and rant, as you realise you ABU or ANBU.

I like that idea, Meglet.

MNHQ take note of Meglet's idea! do it fooking now please

MNHQ couldn't do that...imagine if you posted just having a 'mini rant' but weren't BU ? You would then be going nuts complaining that they made you 'cross' when you weren't, just having a whinge...

Maybe WE should have an option to change the message colour, maybe have a rainbow of colours to choose from, oooh, we could have glitter or neon colours for our Fri Night Drunk Threads ?!

What I need is a ticker that flashes in red with "Hassled has PMT and is therefore not responsible for her words".

Yes, I hear you.
Sometimes I even rant about things I don't even feel that strongly about, I'm not really sure why. Sometimes I'm a bit mean and short with people and can be passive-aggressive.
I would be mortified if people in RL saw what I wrote. I'm actually a really nice person
I think part of the problem is I spend more time on here when I'm feeling low and grumpy.

Agree with Hassled. If that disclaimer could appear at the start of my posts automatically every 25 days it would be v helpful, MNHQ, as i would also realise why I feel so on edge.

I'm sure one of the techs could set up a database of each of our monthly cycles for those of us who would like to warn fellow posters when we have PMT. Shouldn't take long.

Sometimes I even rant about things I don't even feel that strongly about, I'm not really sure why.

I do this and then think-'why on earth are you even bothering with it'!

I write quite a few posts that I delete before posting-and there are quite a few that I should delete!

Celstial

Your idea sounds good in theory, but no-one could predict my cycle, least of all a techie, so I'd need a mind reading, hormone measureing system with face recognition for the days when my face tells the world just don't

It's fine, OP. but I think that you need to acknowledge on the thread when you've been rude, or been unreasonable, or whatever to anyone on the thread.

I hate it when people can't do that. Not that I think they have to, but it makes me like people more when they can admit their mistakes.

sorry - I' don't mean you as such. I mean we all should remember we are speaking to real people.

Mumsnet allows you to say waht you actually think, I agree that is a sanity-saving thing. I think thats why I like AIBU, you get real opinions and not socially mediated ones

I sometimes type some really ah, blunt vicious mean nasty sweary ranty posts, but I have gradually trained myself to count to 50, slowly, before I hit post. Then I read it back, and click away from the page without posting it So far it's worked...

TSC you're lovely as you are.

I'm the same on here as I am in RL. Perhaps a little more polite, if anything. I often can't be arsed to go into a full on rant about things on here when I absolutely would in RL.

its better to rant and be a bit unreasonable on here and have people tell you that you are a numpty than kick of and cause a huge arguement with loved ones , I love a good rant but im quite placid and reasonable in real life , I have told somebody to get a grip a few times on here i was in a foul mood

TSC - sadly not.

I'm promised more time to myself once FaithlessTosser gets things sorted. It's really hard at the moment but should be better in a month or so. Sorry about your crappy week. Anything I could/can do?