Tole DH to 'man-up'. WIBU?

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DH has manflu.

2 out of our 3 DC have had it over the past week or so. Yes, they have been miserable and feeling pretty shite but have managed to continue life without too much bother, going to school/nursery etc.

DH is of course dying. If there is even a moment's silence, it is immediately filled with sighs and moans and huffs from his direction. When he looks at me it has to be with heavy pitiful eyes (even though he doesn't have this look on his face unless it is pointing my way!).

He then mentions that he forgot to have his flu-jab this winter so that is why he has this now.

It is at this point that I decide to tell him that he doesn't actually have flu, he just has a nasty cold just like the children had and that all the sighing and feeling sorry for himself isn't going to get him anywhere. And I actually used the words 'man up'!!!

Was I being unreasonable to have said this? And AIBU to have little sympathy for him? (I know, I'm a heartless bitch!)

Title meant to say 'told'. Oops!

YANBU

no. I think you are being remarkably restrained to not smother him with a cushion

What did he say?

YANBU at all. He's annoying me from there

I don't think your heartless at all. Yes we all sympathize when people r ill but there comes a point where it honestly feels like it's all for show more than anything else if it was that bad then how did we manage to look after kids/ do school runs etc when we had it. Hate this un written rule that us girls are just meant to get on with it no matter how crap we feel whilst they get away with watching tv or playing computer games all day and half the night. Makes me mad too :(

You know YWNBU.

I know someone like this. Until they got Swine Flu - THEN they were able to tell the difference between a cold and flu!!

YABU to use the phrase "man up" as if being a non-annoying ill person is the preserve of men.

There you go then, MN jury has decided!

Hecate he said sorry but then carried on with the 'I've never felt so bad before' (not since the last time anyway!). And now he is sleeping next to me on the sofa snoring away. Why he can't just go to bed I don't know. Oh actually, yes I do - it's so I am aware of just how poorly he is!

Business I am actually ashamed of myself now you have pointed that out (I wouldn't last on the feminism boards!). I should have told him to 'woman up!).

I once worked with a man who claimed he had never once, in his entire life, had a cold but only the flu.

I should have told him to "woman up".

:o at sue " he's annoying me from there "

Oh god, now he's awake and the huffing and sighing continues

Think I preferred him snoring away on the sofa

See it's the huffing, sighing and low whimpering that does for me. Especially when they won't actually go to bed. A luxury that is often denied to most women.

you lot just don't understand.

YANBU

It must be driving you crazy, mind you I have the opposite problem...my DH insists he's always fine and can get on with things no matter how ill he is, I have to practically pin him down and force medication down his throat. He is currently downstairs doing non essential washing and cleaning whilst holding the baby, and he's got two broken ribs daft bugger

Pass him here so I can slap him.

YANBU

YANBU.

I had this with dh about 3 wks ago. Except I had it to along with dd1 and ds. I was still taking dd2 to pre school everyday.

Although dd2 didn't go to school on the friday and that was because I fell over sprained my ankle and twisted my knee .

He still carried on with the moaning and goaning.

MNHelenis

I could watch that over and over. Great programme

Introduce my 24hr rule. Any man with a cold proper flu here has to get out of my sight to bed and gets my pretend attention for 24 hrs max. After that they know it's stop snivelling, remove all tissues from the floor and and shape up. I become very busy and find I cannot hear any requests for hot drinks, adjustment of the pillows or endless general croaking.

Sue put it perfectly

So now he's trying to unblock his nose by almost snorting a piece of tissue soaked in olbas oil. The sound is awful. Why can't he just breathe through his fucking mouth?

I remember when OH got a cold years ago.
He phoned me at work and was complaining about it.
He actually wailed ' but it cant be JUST a cold! It cant'

It was. He was being a big girls blouse.

Weirdly he never complains about the fact he has MS (he didnt have it back then). He is unbelivably stoic (?).

He is still a great big wuss if he gets a cold, a spot, or anything minor.

If he's in hospital with pneumonia any time in the next seven days YABU and are a cold hearted caah but otherwise YANBU hedges bets

You are sooooooo NBU...

However, when my mum's friend told my 10mo DS to "Man up" because he was grizzling with teething pains, she was BU...

Oh my dh is like this!

And, I am ashamed to admit, so is my mum. Her and dad don't get colds, they have flu.

I actually told her her off last time as it annoys me sooooooo much!