To Ignore

[FeckArse]

I've had a 'phone call from a cousin to urgently 'phone my parents as my dad is apparently dying and my mum is very distressed. I am going to ignore.

Righto then

Sounds like a plan

Presumably you're now going to drip feed information once you've got the requisite number of posts?

Wait for them to phone you.

Why, if it's not a silly question?

Yep great idea. Hope for the same treatment when you are in the same situation?

save your phone bill for more important matters

No I'm not.going to drip feed
I'm going to ask for this thread to be deleted. I took a position with my abusive parents years ago now my dad is actually dying it feels so different from the "intellectual" .

i wouldnt bother either dont wanna waste my credit! maybe text instead.

I've reported my own post.

With limited info, it seems like your parents were abusive and now you have found out your dad is dying. Without knowing the extent of abuse, verbal or anyone's worst nightmare, you must do what you want to do I think. If you have had years of hell, ask yourself if you are content to ignore the call, if you want to actually ask your dad why, how etc, and just think that if he was dead now, would you change your mind about how things happened. However, only you can decide and I hope you have a supportive DH. Good luck.

So why not say that they were abusive in your OP? What did you seriously expect people to say if they don't know that they were abused and so have no contact?

Sounds like a difficult decision, hope you find peace with whatever you decide to do.

sorry X post!

yeah i would maybe include that in the origonal post. I hope your ok and that you make the right choice for you not anyone else

Years ago I had an opportunity to save my dad's life cookcleaner And I paid back my life.
I'm sobbing my guts out.

Fuck of daisy

Feckarse, I'm really sorry for whatever hell you've been through.

You are underestimating with the drip feeding!! Sorry but confused ... Do you mean saved his life in the sense of donating a kidney type or saved it by not reporting him to the police and he escaped prison ...

Why don't you post a it more info, get some feedback, then get your post deleted?

are you on your own or do you have someone with you to comfort you?

Sorry FeckArse. Sounds like a horrible situation. Um. What do you mean, though, by And I paid back my life?

Are you OK?

(daft question)

Oh I'm sorry daisy. I really apologise. My head's all over the palce at the moment. I can't stop crying

At the end of the day, you are an adult (presumably) and you need to think of yourself and what works best for you. I have learnt to sometimes do things which may be viewed as selfish but it keep me sane (ish!!). There is still the inevitable guilt trip.

Feck ... Sit down and take a deep breath, count to 10 and explain what has happened. Otherwise we can't help.

No problem, I'm sorry about my initial posts too. I really do hope you work out what's best for you. Thinking of you.