To NOT replace this dvd for this childs birthday?

[mrsnesbit]

Its an 8th birthday and the dvd i bought the child he had got the same one from another relative.
His mum said to me that he had scratched and damaged his original copy to bits so it was good some one had bought it to replace it.
So i offered to take the one i bought him and change it for one he doesnt have.
BUT if he damages them, im reluctant to spend my money on a new one, i'd rather get him a book or something instead.
(his mum commented that he damages them all by standing on them and dragging them across the wooden floors)

In my house, belongings are looked after with care, especially presents from people,

Well what was the point in asking us?
Most people said YABU but you had already decided to get him some PJ's anyway so why ask?

But its not a waste of money

OP spends £10 on dvd - child trashes it - cost to OP £10
OP spends £10 on dvd - child watches it every day - cost to OP £10

I could understand if it were your child but it isn't its a gift for another child so why does it matter to you what he does with it? Cost to you is still £10!

Give him nothing if you feel like that.

He probably rips books and and spills tomato soup on his t-shirts.

sorry, was hoping to get some chat and perspective, not a mouthful and to be called odd and sarcastic comments.

Wont be posting on this again. Thanks for those who were nice and answered with perspective and alternative veiws.

I'm not sure why you're getting so much grief over this tbh.

Well, I'm sorry I was sarky, that wasn't necessary, but I still don't agree with you.

Bitofastate out it better.

put it better

are you jamietorch jamie?

OOh has MN Royalty waltzed in ? [hmmm]

Vom,boak etc...

Green shirt

. Do you not recognise and sometimes greet people you have been on threads with before?

Don't worry, I may agree with you one day on a thread.

And, erm, she was bowing because she was pleased someone had agreed, not in servitude.

Obviously

I'd get the pyjamas, I think you're being a bit precious about the dvd, but I can see your point of view, and I agree with you that 8 is a bit old to be treating possessions like that.

This is AIBU though, we are allowed to tell you that we disagree.

jesus christ you're a nutter Green

I bowed because someone agreed with me. This happens so rarely I felt the need to comment.

I thought I recognised Jamie's name from an old name a while back. I have no idea if they are 'royalty' or not, whatever that means.

You might recognise me because of my sad sad addiction to MN

What OP seems not to understand is that some children are like this. I have 3dcs. The eldest is like this. I am definitely not. I get very upset at the things he's broken over the yers (and I'm talking about things like beds and doors, not just DVDs). No amount of telling off or sanctions or disapproval or expressions of sadness make any difference. It's just the way he is. Next child isn't like this at all. She looks after thing, keeps them safe (like me) can put her hands on something she's not used for ages if you ask her. Both brought up the same, but 2 different ways of 'being'.

I think this is bit like having good sleeper or a good eater - you congratulate yourself on the way you brought them up, and judge other parents for not having done as good a job as you.......... you don' tgive enough importance to the fact they are all born with their own personalities.

I absolutely agree with what Backforgood says, this is so very true. My boy isnt like this, so its difficult for me to understand, but i absolutely get what you are saying.

Also really dont mind folk disagreeing..it adds perspective and always adds something i hadnt thought abou.
Its when people call you odd, or are sarcastic or even worse..suggesting that i am judging the boys mother who is a good friend.

Wasnt expecting it, although have been a long term lurker on AIBU, so shouldnt have been so dumb i spose.

mrsnesbit If you wanted chat why didn't you post in chat then?
You posted in AIBU so people are saying if they think you are or not.

Dont worry, wont be making this mistake again

Enjoy a good chat me!

lol mrsnesbit me too.
I have posted something in chat but have a feeling I am going to get slaughted!!!

Ask his mum what she would like you to do.

Ooh, I'm a bit judgy about an 8 year old having his OWN TELLY.That's madness!

My DD2.5 is obsessed with DVDs, despite having plenty of age appropriate toys. She lines them up and sorts them and chews them and pulls off the sleeves. She knows she is not supposed to and has seen the consequences of scratches on her Postman Pat DVDs (not really a tragedy for me) but she won't stop. Naughty place and removal of said items doesn't stop her doing it again. I lock the cabinet - but the key got lost. I find various ways to keep the cabinet shut, but she finds a way to open it, eventually.

Oooooh, missed the bit about own telly. Op I take it all back. Buy him the jammies