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Original poster

Mil again!!!

73 replies

pumpkinsweetie · 29/03/2012 12:52

Due to previous problems with my fil and mil, me and my H have stopped seeing them for a while
...anyway i got a text of her today which has really hurt me AIBU to think this text is insulting considering my childrens meals are all cooked from scratch & they are fed very well or do u think she was being helpful?

This is the text
Asda is to give kids under three free vitamin d tablets from sunday to counter rickets x

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StrandedBear · 29/03/2012 12:54

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CreepyWeeBrackets · 29/03/2012 12:55

I love the passive-aggressive x at the end Grin

Reply that you have been sending the DC out to play in the free sunshine so no need for vitamin D.

ABatInBunkFive · 29/03/2012 12:56

Its hard to know why she sent it, i'd have laughed and press delete

PooPooInMyToes · 29/03/2012 12:56

Sounds like she was being helpful.

Oh and you get vitamin d from the sun. LOTS of people in the UK are deficient. It is nothing to do with diet.

Original poster
pumpkinsweetie · 29/03/2012 12:57

I just find it odd that we are not speaking and then she sends me this text out of the blue Confused

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sue52 · 29/03/2012 12:57

Isn't vitamin D obtained from sunshine rather than food? Maybe she was passing on information she had heard. I wouldn't be offended if I received such a text but then again I don't know your back history with MIL.

EdithWeston · 29/03/2012 12:58

Vitamin D does not come from diet, and there has been quite a lot in the news recently about the need for supplementation.

sue52 · 29/03/2012 12:58

Maybe the text was a ruse to get to talk to you again.

Haziedoll · 29/03/2012 13:00

I would send a reply saying "shame they weren't doing that when your children were growing up, spam and boiled for 3 hours vegetables is not the most nutritionally balanced meal. x"

CreepyWeeBrackets · 29/03/2012 13:01

It must be found in some foods though. Unless supplements can bottle sunshine Confused

CreepyWeeBrackets · 29/03/2012 13:03

Ah - Google to the rescue

I'm okay, I eat shitloads of eggs.

LOL @ Hazie's reply with the x

diddl · 29/03/2012 13:04

I´d just laugh tbh.

It is rather unfortunate that you took it as a slur on your cooking.

Boiling veg does reduce vitamin content though, doesn´t it?

Or is that an old wives tale?

EmmaCate · 29/03/2012 13:05

Helpful. PooPoo has wisdom... it's in margarines I think but that's about all.

It's easier to just buy SPF25 or so - lets a little bit through but not too much. Obviously you have to avoid sunburn at all costs though so it doesn't really cut it in the danger hours like a SPF50 would - keep them in the shade per the usual advice.

Rickets is big in Oz I hear... because everyone slathers on the SPF50. Rock and a hard place or what?!

mousymouseafraidofdogs · 29/03/2012 13:05

just don't think about it, maybe she sent it to other people as well.

and get yourself to asda to get the vits for the next winter when the sun is not enough to make enough vit d in the UK.

mousymouseafraidofdogs · 29/03/2012 13:06

oily fish also contains vit d, which is why cod liver oil was given in those days

Original poster
pumpkinsweetie · 29/03/2012 13:06

Its caused by malutrition mostly so that is why im offendedSad
The thing is shes always very rude with her comments and this is the lastest.
I would be quite happy to talk to her again but behaving in the way her and fil have been then send me this text has left me fuming.
The thing is we aint short of money and can afford to BUY vitamins & she knows that so i dont get why she has sent it other than to piss me off

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PooPooInMyToes · 29/03/2012 13:08

Why thank you Emma. Don't think anyone's ever said i had wisdom before. I knew i did . . . I just knew it! Grin

PooPooInMyToes · 29/03/2012 13:09

Are you SURE she's trying to piss you off?

ohbugrit · 29/03/2012 13:10

It's not caused mostly by malnutrition. That's not true.
I think you may have missed an olive branch here.

Original poster
pumpkinsweetie · 29/03/2012 13:11

Yes because its been very sunny where i live for atleast a month & i take my kids to the park and on day trips and they are fed well (she knows this) so yes i find it insulting.

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DuelingFanjo · 29/03/2012 13:12

the main reason for rickets is lack of vitamin D (lack of sunlight) - you'd have to be feeding then a pretty awful diet for malnutrition to be an issue.

PooPooInMyToes · 29/03/2012 13:12

One of my children is deficient which was very surprising considering her healthy diet but the dr explained it to me. Often in this country all you can do it take vitamins due to the lack of sunshine.

DuelingFanjo · 29/03/2012 13:12

if I were you I would just ignore it though.

Kewcumber · 29/03/2012 13:12

There is 41 IU of vitamin D in an egg, 700iu is the recommended daily dose - Creepy - I suspect that you aren't getting enough from what you eat unless you're eating about 7oz of fresh oily fish a day or a tablespoon of cod liver oil. You need about 20 mins a day in the daylight with uncovered arms and face from around April to Sept in this country.

I struggle to get enough D and I'm a pasty faced brit who should in theory absorb sun easily so its one of the few things that I know of what I speak!

As to your MIL OP, my first reaction to anyone texting me about a potential freebie wouldn't be "the bitch". But I guess theres a back story here (and you don't understand how the body produces vit d).

PooPooInMyToes · 29/03/2012 13:14

Sunny for a month? Its not instant, its accumulative.