To think that kids knocking to play out at 7-8 pm on a week night

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is a bit . Its too late isnt it? Or am I a bit PFB in having my 7 year old in bedtime mode by 7 and in bed (and mostly asleep) by 7.30??

Primary aged kids. Year 2-4.

YANBU

YANBU

I think my DD might still have been outside playing (esp when the clocks have just changed and its such glorious weather) but she wouldn't have been knocking on friends doors.

Yes ,its too late.
Children of that agegroup should be winding down for bed at that time.

So many young kids seem go to bed at 9pm or later...you should see how listless and yawning they are in school the next day!

Yanbu when they're that age. My almost 10 year old has had his shower and is in his pjs now!

Definitely too late. Especially on a school night. Kids of that age should be in bed by 8 at the latest in my opinion. That means 11 hours of sleep assuming a 7am get up. Any less than that and surely they'd be too tired at school? So they should be back indoors and getting ready for bed at 7, not knocking on other people's doors. Knocking on people's doors should happen between end of school and tea time.

YANBU

My 4 year old goes to bed at 8pm (up having her stories now) and my 2 year old (in bed since 7) is still chatting away to herself (stupid clocks!)

Do 7 year olds really go to bed at 7pm?

Is 9 really outlandish for children of that age?

I can't remember what my bedtime was at that age.

What time was Hill Street Blues on? I had to be in bed when it came on.

Children vary. My DD has never been much of a sleeper (11 hours?)
It depends too what time they need to be up in the morning. If yours wake up bright and happy at the time they need to, that's fine, isn't it? If your 4 year old isn't at school yet, you may find she needs an earlier bedtime next year - but then again maybe not.

I guess the point is, if your DC are ok playing out at 7 or later, that's fine but it would BVU to let them disrupt kids who need more sleep.

My 7 year old still goes to bed between 7.30 and 8. They do still need 10-11 hours at night so I think 9pm is too late since it usually takes 30 mins to get to sleep for mine. Also 8pm onwards is mine and DHs time!

I don't think I will be letting DD stay up till 9 on school nights until she is near the end of primary to be honest.

YANBU but also remember what a lucky position you are in...there are very few DC in this area where I live....and the ones that are the same age as my 7 year old, are not allowed out to play!

So yanbu but stop moaning.

Different people have different routines, however, I do think they need their sleep. My almost 7 year old (Y2) doesn't go out by himself. We have story time at 7 pm and in bed by 7.30 mostly he goes straight to sleep, but sometimes he looks at books for a bit.

I wouldn't allow him to knock on people's doors at that time, but when kids play out and they want to play with that friend they will go and knock. I think their parents probably wouldn't approve either.

Thanks Grimma :)

No, she's not at school and I suspect she will be knackered by it. Even her 2.5 hours of nursery in the morning had her very tired until recently.

8pm is a new thing we're trying because she had started to wake at 6-6.30am.

It's hard to imagine when they are old enough to be out playing and needing to get to bed for school in the morning.

Wow. My 9.5 year old still goes to bed at 7.30 sharp.

We have had one knock at 9 pm before.

I little U its nicer lighter nights kids sometimes get to play out a little later , I can see your point though to be knocking at the door if yours is in bed and at what 6 and 8 they are not really small are they ?

My (only just 7) DS is in bed by 7.30 at the latest. Sometimes he goes straight to sleep - sometimes he reads for a bit. DD (4 in July) is in bed at 6.45/7.00 and usually goes straight to sleep. The more sleep the better for them in my view!! Weekends they go a little later but only half an hour or so.

Oh, outrageous !

Honestly, I think it is fine for an 8/9 yr old to go to bed after 8... unless they have to wake up at 5 in the morning.

I don't think I would let my kids out on their own really at 7 or 8 (mine are only 3 & 6 so maybe I will change my mind?), they are not old enough to be responsible at that age!

My 6 year old goes to bed at 8pm at the latest, it takes him a long time to get to sleep and he usually needs around 10 1/2 - 11 hours sleep, I think 8pm is more than late enough, I would prefer 7-730pm at his age but he just cannot get to sleep that early.

I live in a city and the roads are really busy - I really don't think I will ever believe that 6-8 year olds are old enough to be out on their own!

PigeonPair - 'the more sleep the better for them' - and for me! I want my 7 and 3.5 year olds asleep by 7.30, or in bed at least for the 7 year old - I need some time to chill out and not talk about Princess Sleeping Beauty and the Starwars Death Star!

Bed times used to be in half hour increments - but no way on Gods Green Earth I would have been allowed out to play
(a) on a week night
(b) after 5pm on w/end

You will find the 7.30 , 8am knockers far more irritating in the summer holidays ....FWIW - mine aren't allowed out before 10am

My dd is often awake till 9pm, even though she has to be in bed by 8.30pm. She doesn't actually need to get up until 8am so plenty of time to get 11 hours sleep. Usually, she needs a bit less than this.

I think lots of parents prefer an early bedtime because it gives them more of an evening. That's fair enough, but there is nothing inherently better about sleeping at 8 and getting up at 7 than sleeping at 9 and getting up at 8. As long as the child has enough sleep and gets to school on time, I really don't see why some people are so sanctimonious about the issue.

Having said that, my dd is not allowed to "play out" and would not call for other kids unless I had first ok'd it with the other parents. Therefore yanbu.

I wouldn't call it sanctimonious, my kids simply will not sleep til 8 and even if they would, they have to leave for school at 8.20. I don't know many school-aged children who can rise at 8 and be to school on time.

Crikey DS is (just about) 6 and goes to bed at 8pm.

This evening there were 8 neighbourhood children in our back garden from aged 6 -10 until about 7.30pm, it was great to watch them all enjoying the good weather and getting some exercise - isn't it a good thing for children to be outside if the weather is good?

Half an hour in my mind is long enough to wind down and get ready for bed.
Having said that he is not allowed to knock on anyones door in the morning until 9.30am.

Oh and DS wakes up at around 6-6.30am. I have tried putting him to bed earlier and he just wakes up earlier so we are happy with the arrangement we have.