To say no to my idea of hell.

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Five Children. Manshapes ex. One caravan. For a whole week.

I did it last year, although with only four kids as i was pregnant, but that was enough. I was very very glad to come home.

I dont want to do it again.

NO, a definite NO. To him going with her, to him going without you and for you to stay at home.

Why can you not get the vouchers and go on holiday with him and your family?

Nightmare doesnt even begin to describe this.

In which case don't go. You said you're I'd wondered how she coped the 51 weeks so I took that as she has him alot, sorry if that upset you.
Personally I go on caravan holidays as that's what the kids like but never to somewhere like haven as too crowded and noises. We went to the hell that is butlins and that was even worse!
You can spend family fund holiday vouchers almost anywhere so say you can't do it but maye suggest next year you do choose the holiday without her. She sounds like a nightmare!

NO, dont go. Sounds horrid.

Cant she go on her own with her son and grandchildren?

You dont have to be her skivvy.

Bloody hell.

Why not just pack him and the kids off with her and stay at home by yourself and relax?

That's what I'd do!

Anywhere in a caravan sounds utterly awful. I would rather have no holiday than a caravan or tent

He does not really have to go on holiday with his ex, though does he?

Just say no!

No, it sounds like bloody hell.

Say NO!!!

What does your DP say? He thinks you should go and skivvy for his spitting ex?

YANBU Manshape is BVVVVVVVU if he expects you to do this, especially after last year.

I don't understand how she has got the kids hyped up though. My husband's exwife doesn't have my kids as they aren't related to her, and as she obviously dislikes your kids I'm surprised you let them anywhere near her and that they want to have anything to do with her. It doesn't make sense to me.

The spitting incident happened about 18 months ago, beore she allowed us to have regular contact with DSS. I was in the market with DS3 in his buggy, luckily it had been raining, so when she spat at him it didn't actually hit him but the see through raincover instead. She's only allowed us regular contact with him since May lst year, which strangely coincided with her finding a new boyfriend..

Manshape feels like he has to do this for a few reasons... he feels immense guilt that DSS doesn't have a stable home life, he feels guilty that we can't afford a holiday of our own and see's this as a chance to give the kids a week away that they can enjoy - I just wish he'd grow a pair and tell her no, or let me tell her, but he's scared she'll stop us seeing DSS and that's carrot she dangles, iyswim?

2ndrebecca - it was DSS's birthday on Friday and she insisted on us all being there for a little 'party'. She told DS2 that we were all going on holiday again whilst manshape was supervising DD1 on the trampoline outside and i was in another room feeding DD2

oh dee your OH needs to grow a pair, this is just going to get worse if he doesnt put his foot down now. Why cant he go and enforce his parental rights? (If he wasnt married to her)

I seriously wouldnt be happy with the situation, and I sure as hell wouldnt be going on holiday with her playing happy nuclear families.

I'm going on holiday with my ExH's ExW this year.

She's my best friend.

no is a full sentence, remember ? love that reponce :)

just dont go, sounds hellish

FWIW my DD with autism is a handful but manageable, in a caravan she would be an absolute nightmare and unmanageable by just me.

Dont go.
You dont have to.
Stay at home with baby and any of the DCs that want to stay with you.

BTW to all you caravan haterz - they are fab and my almost dearest wish is to have one of my very own so ner.

If she has grown up sons and you have 4 kids then how old is your stepson? Can he make his own mind up about his dad? How bad is his autism?
I would have told my husband and his ex last year that I was never doing the caravan holiday again.
I would be telling my husband that I won't go to a caravan and that if she does start refusing him access to his son we go through the courts. If you have him every weekend and she has a new bloke it's unlikely she's suddenly going to want to have no free time again. Is the new boyfriend coming too?

Agree I had some great caravan hols with my parents and have had good caravan, camping and barge holidays with kids and stepkids. No exes though.

I loathe caravanning so am biased. But boys love it so DH takes them (DSS and DS) for wonderful male bonding weekends while I stay at home with wonderful DD having girls nights on the lash. 'Tis fantastic.

You have a perfect excuse as baby is so young and I bet they don't have nearly as good a time without you there to clean, cook and skivvy.

DH has to find his own way. Controlling someone by threatening their contact with their children is DV in my book, and we don't tell women in abusive relationships to grow a pair, now, do we? You can only control your own life, really.

I cannot envision either me or dh going on a caravan holiday with an ex.

look - you can't go. i'm sure you had a thread about this last year.

your dh can go and you can have a relaxing week at home.