Why does every event have to be photographed?

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Years ago we had film your took to Boots. Photos were for special occasions and holidays. Now we're in the digital, no joke getting up in the morning is celebrated. Look on Youtube for bods who do that for a year just to watch themselves get very slighty older.

So what has pissed me off. I'm living with epilepsy, that's what. And all these photos are a fucking nightmare.

Saturday 9.15am at ice rink have a massive seizure. Signs on walls No Cameras (properly for the safety of ice hockey players). I'm there to watch my DD2 who incidently has mild SN take her grade 2 badge. Its a big deal for her because she failed the first time owing to her disabilities.

So a granny has to photograph a child. And what do you know I'm off. Luckily DH with me and another father who turned out to be a nurse took charge and assured people there that no need for an ambulance. I can't thank him enough. Epileptics do not need to be whisked off to hospital on every occasion even if it looks scary.

Outcome is, I don't get to see DD2 take her test (she did pass). Have the embarrassment of being wheelchaired to the car. Have to go straight to bed to sleep it off. Miss a lovely sunny day. Am not fully recovered until Sunday ffs.

I could go on about the wanker tourist who clicked away in the sweet shop at Christmas but I think I've made my point.

You're being pretty unreasonable.

I don't think it's outrageous for someone to take a photograph of their grandchild and I understand why someone might want to take a photograph in a traditional sweet shop.

You can't expect people you've never met, never spoken to and who know nothing of you to telepathically understand they mustn't take pictures anywhere near you because of your disability.

YABU - it could have been a big moment for that child too - maybe mum had to work & missed seeing it so Granny wanted to show her a photo. I think the no camera signs are more for child safeguarding than anything else tbh.

I am sorry you missed out on seeing your child though - well done to her for passing.

Yabu.

That must have been very scary, not to mention embarrassing and disappointing. YANBU for wanting people to abide by the rules where there are signs clearly stating that no photos should be taken. However you can't blame people for wanting pics of special occasions (not sure a sweet shop is that important but anyway). Congrats to your DD and I hope you're feeling a lot better now.

Actually no I DON'T think YABU

Sorry YANBU I mean.

The signs are up on the walls for the safety of the hockey players, NO FLASH PHOTOGRAPHY.

So the OP would be right to think that she is safe in that environment to enjoy watching her child, wheras normally I guess OP you avoid anywhere there might be flash or hopefully aovid looking at the relevant moments if warned?

She is not asking that no-one ever again use a flash camera. Just a bit of thought & not flouting the rules which are there for a good reason, even if we don't agree with it.

Anyway with digital cameras being so clever these days there are many settings that can be used without flash.

There were signs saying no photography, why can't people be considerate ?

Of-course yanbu. i imagine you went to the event with the foreknowledge that cameras were banned. In her rush to be snap-happy, Granny put the young people on the ice at risk as well as being directly responsible for your siezure. There's a reason that these places put bans on and yanbu for assuming you'd be OK in such a place. You have a right to be annoyed.

Though I'm sure YABU about the sweet shop thing. You can't expect that people won't take pictures when you're out and about.

I'm curious if everyone who thinks OP is BU would say the same if the flash had caused a child on the ice to have an accident.

I don't take photographs if it say 'no photographs' and most of the time I don't use flash-HOWEVER I take photographs all the time-of all sorts of things. With the old type film you had to be selective but with digital you don't.
It isn't something that is going to stop.

yanbu at all.

Signage is there to prevent accidents. In this case for skaters who might be startled/blinded by the flash of a camera.

It's a Pics or Didn't Happen culture.

You have every right to be incandescent.
Quite frankly, I'd hit the roof if anyone used a camera flash, contrary to signage, while my child was skating, and I don't even have epilepsy.

If my mother, MIL, or FIL did that, there would be hell to pay with me!

Thanks for opening my eyes to an issue I knew nothing about.

Yanbu, I'm sensitive to flashing lights too - not full scale fits, but make me feel very sick and woozy.

I take pics everywhere that allows it but I rarely use the flash. kids grow so fast that I dont want to miss anything. I wouldnt have taken them with a sign up stating not to though. yanbu for wanting to be considerate but yabu to expect everyone to stop taking pictures completely.

wanting People* to be considerate that is.

YANBU- the rights and wrongs of photographing every bloody thing not withstanding, someone disobeyed a rule for everyone's safety, for their benefit at huge disadvantage to you, as BigJessie says you have every right to be livid.

there was signs up no photography stupid granny ignored it , yanbu at all , however you cant really expect people not to take photies at all , well done your daughter for passing her test

Does one flash send you into a fit usually?

I thought it was rapidly flashing lights. They give me a migraine, but only after sustained use of them. The worst thing is driving when the sun's reflecting off cars or shining through trees for me.

But I wish people wouldn't take photos when it says not to, I think managements are accepting that it's too hard to police with the mobile phones way too easily. It now seems to be accepted that anything is done to the accompaniment of flashes.

I take photos a lot. However, I make sure no-one else is included in the picture, and I don't use the flash willy-nilly. The flash is for photographing toddlers making dens under chairs in the living room!

YANBU The rule said no cameras so there should not have been any!

Sorry you had such a shit experience, some people are so selfish.

YANBU about people using cameras where it says you can't.

And as for being irritated about the snap-happy culture even where it is allowed, to be honest I think you are allowed to be a bit "unreasonable" about it under the circumstances.

Generally I get annoyed by the ban on cameras even though I don't tend to be that snap-happy myself, but I do sympathise with people who are looking after children who are being fostered or who have adopted children, or escaping domestic violence, witness protection, etc which there are not many of I acknowledge. But happy to add people living with epilepsy to that - didn't realise a camera flash could set someone off in that context.

Hope you feel better.

The two are not linked are they?

Why does every event have to be photographed? I love taking photos. I love looking back at my photos, so do family and my children. Each to their own. YABU.

Should someone take photos where there are signs up saying "no photos?" No. YANBU. The signs are there for a reason.

yabu
I always take pictures of my dd. as she loves them.
she has epilepsy too

YANBU She shouldn't have been taking photos.

In this particular scenario, YADNBU. There was a sign! I'm sorry you missed your little girl getting her award but a huge well done to her. A wonderful achievement!

In general, I'm sorry but YABU because it is nice to have photos.