To think this is not weird or rude?!

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I've just had a very bizarre conversation and I'm sure I'm right and she's wrong but need a third party judge!

If you are at a friend's house and they offer tea/coffee etc, would you've offended if they asked for a cold drink instead?

She said she gets highly offended when anyone (me) does this to her as it means you don't want to stay long as cold drinks can be drunk quicker!!

I was a bit and laughed which made things worse she didn't appreciate.

I don't like hot drinks do always ask for cold, am I accident offending everyone by subliminally saying 'I don't want to stay long?'

YANBU. Your friend is bonkers. It's probably ruder NOT to offer a cold drink, especially as the weather gets warmer. Very often if I turn up at someone's house, I'm a bit out of puff and would much prefer a glass of something cold, no matter how long I'm staying.

"What can I get you? Tea, coffee? something cold?"

It's not hard- tell your mad friend!

Very strange. I do drink tea sometimes, but often prefer a cold drink, especially on a sunny day. The type of drink had absolutely no relation to how long I plan to stay. And if I can't stay long, I generally make that clear from the start.

Your friend is a loon - plenty of people don't like tea or coffee, and if it's a hot day you might prefer a cold drink.

ROFL

No, it's not rude to ask for a cold drink. Her idea about drinking them quicker to get away would not even occur to me!

I am glad no-one has agreed, although i'm sure she won't be best pleased if she ever reads this thread

I used to hate tea and coffee, but my mum told me it would be rude to ask for cold drinks as they were more expensive and I'd just have to get used to tea and coffee . I do drink coffee now but still hate tea.

Well I would be embarrassed if I offered tea or coffee, and was told, "no can I have a cold drink?" Because I don't ever have any in the house - or occasionally there is some warm and very flat coke left over from a birthday party, which is equally embarrassing as it is disgusting.

I was taught that it is rude to ask for something you're not offered.

Surely being a good host is about making your guest feel comfortable and that includes serving them their preferred beverage :)

I don't like hot drinks so I must be really rude!

I've never thought that a friend was being rude when they ask for a cold drink.

On one my friends always asks for coffee and a water. What does that make her

Oh and when I am offered tea or coffee I usually just ask for a glass of water. If I am then offered something more exciting than water then I will accept.

Oh, she'd hate my DH, he's one of those with an asbestos mouth who can gulp down boiling hot tea.

TBH I would feel rude as the host, for having forgotten to offer! The only thing I think is not on is when guests ask for something very specific (eg. someone I no longer bother to invite over who when offered the usual options asked brightly 'actually, I would like some tomato juice' ... erm, ok, but this is not a shop, it's my house ...)

Someone's probably going to tell me now there's some country where tomato juice is a fridge stand-by like milk, aren't they ...

Ah, so that is why people often request tea, and then dont drink it! It always puzzled me.

I rather people say what they want!

Does she only befriend people who drink tea or coffee and does she have soya etc milk always available,for those that don't drink cows milk

Do you fill in a form on meeting her, so that she knows not to invite you to her house?

She's potty, neither DH nor one of my friends drinks tea or are particularly keen on coffee.

Both are very happy with what ever cold stuff you have for the DCs.

People are really weird about drinks.

The looks I used to get, as a child, for saying can I get some water, I really don't like squash.

She is B weird.

OTOH it is a bit weird to ask for something that has not been offered, so if offered tea or coffee it's probably OK to ask for water but not necessarily OK to ask for juice/squash/lemonade/anything else.

Unless, you know, the person you are visiting is actually your friend, who wants you to have a pleasant time.

What a way to be offended! Next visit ask for a hot drink and immediately after ask for a cold drink to go with it. See how that affects her Just shows - how complex we humans are and how easily offended we can be

What a strange thing for your friend to assume. Loads of people prefer cold drinks and many younger people don't drink tea or coffee at all. Anyway, you can sip a cold drink or gulp down a hot drink.

Agree with Ivy that her hostessing skills need re-tuning, and love the idea of asking from a paper cup 'to go'.

YANBU I don't drink hot drinks. Worse still when people come to my home I forget to offer tea or coffee as I forget the rest of the world expects me to dig out my kettle and use it.

Very odd. We have several friends who don't like hot drinks at all. Considering they live over 100 miles away, I don't think they're in a hurry to leave when drinks are offered!

How peculiar. YA definite NBU. Surely a good host happily provides what the guests want to drink? How could you be offended by someone merely stating that their preference is for a cold drink? Weird.

Why is she reading so much into someone preferring a hot drink to a cool one? People don't like tea / coffee all the time. I'm an absolute coffee fiend but every once in a while you need a cool drink to wet your whistle. That this even needs explaining to her is laughable. Is she generally odd or is it just this?

She is being a fruit loop.

I rarely drink hot drinks, and have never had any problems with people upset when I ask for cold. In fact a few people get in cold drinks for me if I'm coming round, which I appreciate while being mildly embarrassed at putting them to the trouble. I'm happy with water.

She's being stupid. Not everyone likes tea or coffee.