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AIBU for shouting piss off to a street fundraisers.

168 replies

misspedantic · 23/03/2012 21:33

I am fed up with these people trying to mug me for my bank account every time I walk out of a shop. Today there was 12 of them along my high street, working for 3 different charities and after being asked how I was or am I having a nice day or have I got a spare minute 7 times, I shouted "PISS OFF". I seriously can't cope with it everyday.

AIBU for wanting to land a drop kick to their heads tell them to leave me alone.

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JasperJohns · 23/03/2012 21:59

I fucking HATE them. The town where I work is full of the patronising bastards.

'oooh gorgeous lady - can I have a word?'. I'm sure they say this to every woman they see.

zeropinterest · 23/03/2012 21:59

Yanbu.

VegimalStyle · 23/03/2012 21:59

I used to talk to the WWF ones about hulk hogan. They tried to make me understand that they were all about pandas, but then I talked about the macho man randy savage instead!

Chuggers are a potential comedy resource. Don't waste them!

misspedantic · 23/03/2012 22:01

Believe me, I was not making eye contact. My head was down and they still kept on coming. I tried the "no thank you" and "I don't have a bank account" and then realised that I needed to use the cashpoint that one of them was stood next to.

I think I shouldn't have to constantly turn people down every 20 steps.

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BeerTricksPott3r · 23/03/2012 22:02

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VegimalStyle · 23/03/2012 22:03

See the hours of fun you can have with them!

fluffypillow · 23/03/2012 22:10

yabu to say it, but yanbu to think it. They piss me off too.

picnicbasketcase · 23/03/2012 22:16

Next time I'm accosted I intend to say, in a cut glass Received Pronunciation accent, (think the Queen doing her Christmas broadcast), you say 'I'm terribly sorry, I don't speak a word of English.'

thatboysmum · 23/03/2012 22:22

The high street where I used to live was like that. They wouldn't take no for an answer and you really had to go out of your way to avoid them. On a couple of occasions I did actually have them block my path and when stepping aside to avoid they did the same, blocking me again all the while carrying on with their patter. Some of them are just down right rude and its not nice to feel pressurised when your just walking down the street.
People with charity buckets don't bother me, I will quite happily give them something if I have it or a smile if I don't.

hazelnutlatte · 23/03/2012 22:22

One of them yelled 'hey hey supermum' at me this morning. And then he did it again an hour later. And again about 10 mins after that.
I think it would have been totally reasonable to shout piss off back to him in those circumstances!

Turniphead1 · 23/03/2012 22:26

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floweryblue · 23/03/2012 22:39

I either say 'i'm busy' andd keep on walking, or I just ignore. You feel rude ignoring a perfectly nice person attempting to engage with you, but they are trying to extort money from you, so blanking them is the only way to be safe.

misspedantic · 23/03/2012 22:39

Turniphead1 good one. I think that sounds a lot better that Piss off.

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slowburner · 23/03/2012 22:44

I just ignore them, but the number of them now is getting annoying.

Yabu to shout bad language at them, but YANBU for getting annoyed with them!

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toofattorun · 23/03/2012 22:48

Vegimal, you are one fabulous lady!! Loving your style. I used to do stuff like that to people!

Columbia999 · 23/03/2012 22:48

I live in one of the most downtrodden and poor towns in the country, and I find it quite obscene to have the streets full of chuggers, trying to engage people in conversation in that aggressively cheerful way they do. If they opened their eyes and looked around town, they might see that it's full of empty shops, and the ones that are occupied are mostly pound shops, mobile phone shops and charity shops. You can't get blood out of a stone.
I tend not to get approached, because I can still do the stare of death that I perfected while working with children. It stops them before they get too close!

Primafacie · 23/03/2012 22:52

Or you can do the Derren Brown thing: I don't understand, you want to [save the dolphins/help the poor/cure cancer]? That's disgusting Shock Confused

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Redbindy · 23/03/2012 22:53

No you are not being unreasonable. These people are a blight on society and it pains me to be forced into a position where I have to tell some over opinionated little bastard to Fuck Right Off when I'm out shopping.

snice · 23/03/2012 22:55

I have found that the best answer to chuggers when they say 'can I stop you for a second/have you got a minute/do you want to save pandas?' is to look straight at them and say 'No, I don't want to'.

They seem to have no answer in their script for this gambit.

ColdWinterNights · 23/03/2012 22:58

YABU Just say "Thank You" as you walk past.

ColdWinterNights · 23/03/2012 23:00

Sorry should say No Thank you.

Too much wine tonight.

VegimalStyle · 23/03/2012 23:00

toofattorun glad to see my lady disguise is working, is hate to think I'd been ripped off on eBay!

Glad to hear that others are having fun with these guys too!

Another favourite is to pretend you're a spy and talk in obscure code phrases, eg "the red fox flies at midnight" "when the blue door opens, the light shines twice"

Columbia999 · 23/03/2012 23:00

I think it's bad that charities use donated money to pay these irritatiing little gits.
It's like that "Save the leopards" charity who put long adverts on prime time telly, blathering about how they are dying out. It's bad enough that they spend a fortune on the ads, but then if you donate, you get a cuddly leopard; how much does that set them back? I've never seen a leopard in the flesh, and I have no desire to. I think seeing children dying from preventable diseases is far more tragic than the plight of the leopards. I know where my donation is going today!

NorfolkNChance · 23/03/2012 23:01

I usually start spouting Shakespeare quotes at them.

Hamlet's soliloquy is the most effective I've found.