to be sick of the way some women talk about diets..?

[IvantaOuiOui]

as part of my job (CM) I take children to playgroups, have been doing this for years. Every woman I meet seems to be on a diet and they all talk about "being good" and "being naughty", how many syns/sins are in everything and what they've eaten in the last 24 hours. Is this normal? I am no stranger to trying to lose weight but I don't want to talk about it all the time when I'm on a diet.

I must live in a parallel universe because nobody I know (or at least nobody that I talk to for longer than 5 minutes) talks about dieting. I also have never felt judged for what I do or don't eat. I eat what I want when I want and so do most of the women in my life.

If you feel judged and disempowered then that is at least partly, up to you. Oh, and throw away those fucking God awful 'womens' magazines and get the New Scientist or Economist instead.

I may have to start my own womens group- modest attire, no diet talk, interesting food and no f*cking cupcakes. I belong to a bookclub and it was lovely talking about books until the hostess brought a gorgeous cake out and all the previously witty and interesting ladies all started making noises like toddlers.

Do you really think some women talking about good/bad foods is linked to what you see as an 'empowering' choice to wear a burkha Lapsed?

It really annoys me too and I cringe every time.
If someone brings cakes or biscuits into work all the women say (almost in chorus) "oh you are naughy ........, for tempting us." "I'm going to be really naughty and have just one cake" etc etc, then they nibble on them like they are commiting the ultimate sin. Even the fat ones do this. Who are they trying to kid?

Callisto, I never read those mags- New Scientist and Private Eye all the way here. :)

I can't get with the tempting thing. If I say no thank you to the cake, muffin, doughnut it's because I have no intention of eating it. So no wittering about ooh how naughty etc

Luckily my female friends don't talk about calories etc when we're out for dinner either.

mooncup I had the exact same experience a while ago. Went out for a meal for a friends birthday, and I didn't know anyone else there except my friend. There were about 7 other women who just ordered salads because they had eaten more than 0.5g of fat that day eaten a lot for lunch and were trying to be good. Was just interesting to see how my friend was being 'brainwashed' (exaggeration I know!) and was toying for ages between a normal meal and a salad! If I'm going out for a meal, I'm not going to have a bloody salad! Eventually managed to persuade my friend to have pudding, otherwise I would have been the only one having one!
But anyway, the whole night was spent comparing the amount of fat and carbs they had consumed that day....
After a few glasses of wine (them on water..) I couldn't help but say something along the lines of "seeing as its your birthday DF, shall we talk about something other than dieting?!"

I work in a team of men, but sit near an admin team made up of women.

I have listened to one of them chunter on for months on end about her weight whilst doing Lighter Life and once she had lost 4 stone, listen to her saying 'ooh I am being naughty!' whilst she ate everything in her path and gained 5 stone. She is now doing Slimming World so I am an unwilling expert on green days and red days and cheating and naughtiness - it is so boring and depressing.

I follow a low-carb diet, as I find it really effective at keeping my weight down, but I am "naughty" sometimes (i.e. I'm not going to refuse the odd hot-cross-bun, or a plate of pasta cooked by a friend).

But I absolutely refuse to feel guilty about these occasional little treats, otherwise what the hell is the point?! By all means follow a diet, if you feel you want to, but if you are going to "cheat", then FFS enjoy every mouthful. You only have one life.

It's almost certain that the people who witter on about being good, naughty etc. in relation to food are the ones that have long term food issues. IME they end up eating three times as much as people that say "ooh yes that cake looks lovely - a slice please."

I know of two friends that did oe of these diets where you don't eat proper food and after losing shitloads of weight they put it all back on again - and more. It's such a waste of time and not good from a health perspective.

I suppose I'm lucky in that I don't have any friends who talk about dieting; none of us are on diets and we're adults so we're quite capable of knowing what's healthy and what's not healthy.

I did work with someone once who would comment every time I ate something like crisps, or (my favourite) M&S triple chocolate mousse at lunch time. I found it irritating but just put it down to her having issues with food.

I don't use the word diet at home, and I try not to use the word fat as a negative.

I think any conversation based on repetitive bodily function is dull
if you've had a memorable meal, shag or crap, so be it
otherwise stfu

Yes, I think I should introduce memorable poos into the conversation instead of dieting. "It was a triple flush job!"

It's the 'diet' foods that make me scream.

low point yoghurts / sandwiches / biscuits / diet drinks .

Why not eat something nutritious that's not just air / sugar / chemicals? I'm sure all that crap messes up peoples systems.

gillian mckeith's career - eating and crapping
you could be next

that reminds me of the little britain sketch ... 'dust!'

I can't think of any situation where 'you ought to have seen the log I laid this morning ' wouldn't be worthy of significant comment.

I know someone who will put on Facebook 'been sooo good with the diet this week' then in the next breath say 'really craving a monster energy drink :('. Once, someone pointed out it wouldn't be good for her dieting and she replied with 'oh, I have cut down from having 5 a day to 2' I was No wonder she is on a constant diet!

I also once saw her eating a sandwich from a bakery the size of a dinner plate full of coronation chicken (with a monster drink in hand) and said 'it's not too naughty of me, it has lettuce in it'.

Sometimes I'm torn between giving her a lesson on nutrition or telling her she doesn't need to convince others to make herself feel better.

I am one of these people but I can't help it, I have had serious issues in the past around eating so I guess its one thing that will always be with me.

I have put on 8lbs recently (the most I have ever gained other than in pregnancy) but I am NOT going to keep talking about to everyone and moaning about dieting - I am going to control my own destiny and do the . . .
CABBAGE SOUP DIET!

Its crazy and gross but apparently I will lose all my extra weight and more in 7 days - worth a try!

I am not going to tell anyone as they will know why I am sepnding most of my working day in the toilet and I'm an old fashioned gal and cannot talk about poo ;o)

my friends with weight issues have fridges & cupboards filled with low fat this & that. Diet yoghurts & biscuits etc.

"I was so naughty, I used half a roll of Double Velvet this morning."

I once had the joy of working with a team of men and women who did my fucking head in with this stuff. The workplace operated a communal cooking thing for lunch, whereby each member of the team took it in turns to cook lunch for everyone.

Me, I eat anything. Imagine my utter confusion when I was presented with a bloody list stating the team's dietary quirks. We had a few veggies on the team - fair dos, was veggy myself for 20 years. No meat then. Then there were the vegans. Edging into trickyville but still manageable. Maybe I'll make veggy stew with pasta.... Oh shit, two people won't eat wheat. Okaaay, can work around that... Ah, but so-and-so doesn't eat red fruit or veg. And so-and-so won't eat beans or pulses. Mushrooms are a no. As is broccoli. What the fuck? The crowning glory was the Breatharian but at least I wasn't having to cook for him.

Bear in mind only the wheat free guys actually had an intolerance. The rest all seemed to be competing for extra special arsiness awards. If you're THAT sodding special, why not cook your own damn food?

The lunch time was one long conversation about food issues. No-one said thanks for cooking for the 30 most faddy buggers on Earth. They were like toddlers. Just mind-bogglingly idiotic.

Wow I'm obviously still rather bitter!

snort at ivana
quilted I hope

naughty/good, what a load of shite. Gibbering idiots.

Lou2321 - MIL and her DP once did the cabbage soup diet. They did mention horrific bowel movements. And they also put all the weight back on after they stopped doing it. So be wary, it might not have long term lasting effects.