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AIBU?

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Original poster

to refuse to get up for my husband

44 replies

shotinfoot · 20/03/2012 22:36

DH has a favourite side of the sofa. Actually, it's both of our preferred sides. It's furthest away from the windows (and the cold), has a side table and near the laptop lead.

If I am sitting here and DH comes in he always insists I get up. Says he can't sit on the other side - some bollocks about him being left handed. Hmm

Often he will just stand there until I move, and say that I am petty if I don't.

Tonight I have refused, I've been sat here for hours while he did something else, my laptop is plugged in and I'm not moving it.

He has refused to sit at the other end of the sofa and is lying on the floor in front of my purposefully ignoring me.

Angry
OP posts:
McHappyPants2012 · 20/03/2012 22:38

let him have his tantrum is he 2

WorraLiberty · 20/03/2012 22:39

Buy a sofa with two left sides

MotherAbigail · 20/03/2012 22:39

Oh, he sounds like me Blush . I have a 'side' and insist on sitting in it. However, I acknowledge that it is odd behaviour therefore YANBU.

PinkPepper · 20/03/2012 22:41

I also budge DP off my sofa (and make him sit on the other so I can put my feet up) Blush I wouldn't if he was doing something that he couldn't move, but I really can't get comfy on other sofa and would probably just go to bed instead

LaurieFairyCake · 20/03/2012 22:41

I have a side of the sofa too, it's the only way I can have my back. I make dd move for me but I always ask DH if he minds - he never minds moving.

Original poster
shotinfoot · 20/03/2012 22:42

But it's also MY side of the sofa.

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Casmama · 20/03/2012 22:44

can you move the side table and get a blanket thereby moving but also making your new end of the sofa preferable to the end that he is now left with?

SetFiretotheRain · 20/03/2012 22:44

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Bohica · 20/03/2012 22:45

We have sides but luckily we prefer the opposite to one another, is it seen as some sort of game of who can get that side first or is he really serious you should move for him.

I budge the children over if I want to sit on my seat but not DH, I would ask him to move but if he said no I would sit and moan on the other side.

Is he being a twat child?

TheSockPuppet · 20/03/2012 22:46

Make him watch Big Bang Theory, he sounds like Sheldon fussing over 'his spot'

Original poster
shotinfoot · 20/03/2012 22:47

No he seriously thinks I should move.

It really aggravates me as my Dad (who was very domineering) used to do this to me all the time. Turn over the TV when he walked into a room, make me get out of the chair I was sitting in.

Now I'm a grown up I should be able to sit on the sofa I paid for Angry

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Bohica · 20/03/2012 22:51

Hmm we have argued before about him turning over the tel when someone else ir children are watching a programme, just because they are little doesn't mean they arn't as engrossed in their programme as he would be if I wandered in and switched over his golf Angry

I would move your furniture around and then claim fav on one seat, works well for us remembers not to ask children to fudge off my seat incase I cause future resentment

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 20/03/2012 22:55

Can't you just share the good side? Or is your dh too selfish to consider that? I thought sharing stuff was the whole point of being married.

CheshireDing · 21/03/2012 01:27

My Grandad used to use being left handed for any old thing. Eveb such as "can you move to the other side of the stairs so I can get by" (when I was sat on the stairs on the phone) Hmm

Hope you stayed put.

AwkwardMary · 21/03/2012 01:38

YANBU

BUT why the eff have you not sorted out another point for the other laptop?? It's not hard...get an extension!

The window thing...get it sealed or get better curtains.

Bogeyface · 21/03/2012 01:45

I would say that YABU if he moved for you sometimes, so you share "our" side, but it sounds like he doesnt so YADNBU.

I am a bit Sheldon about my spot :o so I can sympathise with both of you, but I would expect (and do when required) share!

Bogeyface · 21/03/2012 01:45

expect to share

Shutupanddrive · 21/03/2012 07:18

YANBU let him sulk on the floor

LovesBeingWearingSkinnyJeans · 21/03/2012 07:26

Split the days up so that you each get a turn and quickest first in Sunday's?

YellowDinosaur · 21/03/2012 07:28

Can't believe there are so many people on this thread who would do the same as the op dh. Are you all selfish toddlers? Hmm Its one thing having a favourite seat and sitting in it whenever possible, its another thing completely to actually expect your partner to move from where you have been sitting all evening at their whim.

Op YANBU. Treat him as you would a toddler and ignore. If he honestly wants to make himself more uncomfortable by lying on the floor to make some sort of point then let him.

trixie123 · 21/03/2012 07:29

but if you acknowledge it is the best side and you'd been sitting there for ages..is it not his turn maybe?

EdithWeston · 21/03/2012 07:31

Rearrange the furniture, buy curtain linings, add more laptop leads.

This is only a problem for as long as your furniture does not suit how you both want to use the space.

YellowDinosaur · 21/03/2012 07:32

Honestly I wouldn't even move the kids. Why do they deserve less respect and consideration? Unless there is a proper reason why you need a specific seat (for eg you are doing something that you can literally only do in that seat and the person in it isn't doing, medical reason like back problems etc) in which case you ask politely and don't demand, just sit somewhere else ffs!

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 21/03/2012 07:33

I have my side of the sofa, I always sit there. DH sits at the other end.

If I came in and he was sitting in my seat I would be so shocked Grin

YellowDinosaur · 21/03/2012 07:33

But yes it is probably sensible to do something about this such as take turns or rearrange the furniture if such childish behaviour is the norm!

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