to feel uncertain about DH taking DD on a week long trip abroad without me?

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I know this should be fine. Grandparents want to see the grandchildren to celebrate one grandparent's birthday. I can't go due to work, so they are now asking if DH will take my four year old DD without me (DD2 will stay home with me). Thing is, it will be an eight hour plane journey there and back in DD's first ever half-term after starting school in September, so I genuinely think that it will be very tiring. It's for a week which is quite a long time for her to be away I think. But mainly I just don't feel OK about it. I actually know that I am being unreasonable really, as the main problem is ridiculous scenarios about planes falling out of skies and stuff like that. I guess I have to say yes, don't I?

Sparks, I have both a 4 year old and a 14 year old. When my teenager was 4, he would not have been happy to spend a week away from me, and it was not something that he needed to do as he has managed to grow up into a confident, independent 14 year old, who is now happy to go on school trips without me. At 4, you are still talking about very young children, who may or may not be happy to be away from their mother for a week. Mine would miss me terribly and prefer not to go, even though she has a loving and competent father. There is nothing wrong or cause for concern in that.

Likewise, if she was away from home, with me for a week, she would miss her daddy and her home.