AIBU to be slightly happy that DS1 told his girlfriend to 'get out' and go & stay with her mum

[CreamolaFoamless]

I know from posts I've made on here alot of members think I'm a giant pushover when it comes to DS1's girlfriend who lives with us

It came too ahead today when he more or less told her to go home and start learning some respect for other people

Me and Ds1 then had a fantastic conversation about how her staying here effected me

He also then had a rant , probably because they'd fallen out, about everything that she doing/the way she behaving was bugging him about her etc etc.

I'm just glad I didn't take some of advice posted on here , because I would have gone in all guns blazing and told her to leave six months ago

I'm far happier he has done that without any interference from me..

She will be back later tonight probably, but at least I now know it's not just me

But I am slighly happy it's happened

Creamola I have read your threads and I'm astounded. I have to wonder if you have some sort of martyr complex. My youngest is 18 and this wouldn't happen in my house, my children would know better than to even try to walk all over me. My Dp's son's trollop of a girlfriend was extremely rude but was put in her place by him. It was made plain that it would NOT be accepted when she visited. this is your doing and you are carying it on. I just can't muster any sympathy for you whatsoever.

GravyAndALumpyMashBaby

What an eloquent, thoughtful and sadly ultimately pointless post

Kick him out, if he wants to live with her it they can get a place together like adults do or if her mother is prepared to keep these adult babies sheltered, fed and watered, let her do it. You are doing yourself harm by allowing them to treat you this way. You are also doing your son harm by allowing him to behave like a bratty child and teaching him that neither he nor any woman he is with ever has to have consideration or respect for others. That is why he is so useless and awful now, it is why all of his girlfriends will be horrible. No nice girl will ever want him.

Do yourself and your son a favour and relieve yourself of the selfish lump, you will be free to feel safe and comfortable in your own home, your son will be forced to grow up and will finally have the opportunity to evolve into a man.

Yo Creamo, did she come back last night? Have they made up?

Creamo.. my kids are all adults, so I do have a very good idea of the situation you are in. As I have said countless times on your threads, stop being such a mug.

I am sure you are a nice person, but that doesnt mean people should walk all over you and take the piss.

"I'd let her back in yes.. because I am a nice person." No you are a complete pushover. I would have all her belongings waiting in a case downstairs ready for her to collect

"It's DS1's choice if he wants her to come back or not. " Why?? It's your house isn't it? How come a teenage boy gets to decide who lives there. [Shakes head in disbelief]

"Although her bed is now here so if the spilt up he won't have a bed because he chucked his out " Surely she owes you at least a bed after six months free board and lodging