to be annoyed at those who are moaning about what they did/didn't get for Mother's Day?

[curiositykitten]

When there are those out there today, who don't have their own Mothers, or their children with them?

I feel incredibly lucky that I have children, and I still have my Mother. The thought that there could ever be a time that something material could ever be more important than that... it sickens me.

Don't be so bloody ungrateful.

I feel incredibly humbled today. After weeks of feeling down and moping around I've felt so spoilt, and emotional. DS had made a card at school which he somehow has managed to keep a secret, and he's been out present shopping with his dad and they got me a lovely perfume. I was very surprised this morning.

It's the first Mother's day ds and dh have done anything for me, usually it's me doing things for my mum and I thought that that was enough. But the pressy and fussing around me is actually really amazing. It's really cheered me up and I feel so appreciated.

I lost my mum when I was 23 - over 30 years ago.

I still understand when posters are upset that their families couldn't be arsed to do something small/meaningful when it does matter to them. It isn't about something material being more important, it is about the thought that goes into it.
Especially if you are the sort of person who puts thought into things for everyone else.

What Nanny0gg said.

Yes, people can sound ungrateful, complainy, etc (including me on another thread) but everyone's entitled to their own feelings and to express them without being shouted down.

I know.

1st world problems.

Disgusting attitude.

So I can't complain about a rubbish present dh gets me for Christmas because others in the world are widows?

I do agree we should try to appreciate what we have more, but people will always get upset over "small" things, that's part of human nature.

Im finding myself feeling special because I am lucky enough to have two gorgeous, healthy children. Yes, I would have felt hurt if I hadn't got a card, but I think the feeling of being very privelidged to have what I do have would have far outweighed it.

Pressed send to early.

I think people should look at the whole picture. If you have a generally happy life with a partner that works as a team (usually) then IMHO it's just so OTT to whine about lack of tea/daffs in bed.

The first thing I did when I woke up was think about my friend who doesn't have her son. My other friend is infertile.

I did get spoilt, and I have nothing to complain about. I know that. I also know that there are 364 more days until the next one. There will be irritations all round. People will piss me off. I'll annoy others.

But each morning I wake up with nothing more than lack of tea to worry about I know how lucky I am.

I think you're being unfair curiosity kitten. people are allowed to be hurt/sad/disappointed with things, including Mothers Day, without having to think "oh hold on, there's bound to be someone in the world worse off with me, I'd better stop moaning and morph into Mary Poppins".

Mothers' day is a massive guilt trip. I'd hate to send flowers of anything because it's now so commercial. I sent my mum a card and I will be making her a simnel cake as I did last year. Love and attention and presents and phone calls and special times 364 days add up to a mother feeling loved and appreciated - no? Not a load of stuff thrown in her direction on 'the special day' that Hallmark decide you will spend loads.

whilst I agree that Mothers days isn't about what you get, I hate the 'there are people worse off than you out there'. Following that theory, no one can complain about anything ever.
Theres nothing wrong with having a bit of a moan. Yes - some people may be worse off and we should spare a thought for them. But if i was the woman whose dh spent who didn't comeback last night, or got bought a wine glass (i am tee total so it would show a lack of thought in the present) i would have a moan to and be pissed off.
I am helping a friend whose dad died last week, however another of our friends lost both parents within 2 weeks of each other. Does that mean the first can't be upset because the second is experiencing something worse?

Everlong I normally agree with you but not about this. Being reminded that I don't have someone is exactly how I feel every father's day - but that is not a reason to deny someone else their own feelings about the day.
I think most complaints will come from women who feel their own kindnesses to their family are not returned on this one day.

God, me too!! Some of the posts today are truly shocking. If you really think one day of the year is proof of how much your family love you then you have far bigger problems than wether or not you got a 'good enough' present/card/ bunch of flowers!

I think YAB abit U but all the moany/pissed off threads about mothers day had brought me down!

I don't think it's much for a mother to ask to have some recognition one day of the year though tbh.

Everyone is entitled to rant though so just ignore the thread?

to all who didn't receive!

YABU

I specifically posted in Chat today about a crap present. Yes, I'm lucky to have my kids, my mother, etc, but I'm still entitled to a moan.

I could sit and post at every parent that moans about their childrens behaviour that they are ungrateful for having healthy children "just be grateful your children are healthy; that you're not a single parent; your ex-h isn't pyschotic; your child doesn't have cancer; you don't have 2 children with Special Needs; you don't have 2 children who are visually impaired; you don't have an autistic child; and be grateful that your 3rd child is perfect but limited by the other two".

The above is my family. I love them. I still didn't want a slab of chocolate for Mothers Day.

Rant over. and I'll chuck in a for good measure.

I don't think it's a case of never being able to moan because people are worse off. I think it's just easier if everyone can appreciate what they do have, and just know that Mothering Sunday is just a made-up day.

FWIW - I was pissed off with my xmas gift this year from DH. Horrid slippers that were too small bought 2 days before xmas (showed on our joint account) given to me in a carrier bag. Horrid gift. However, he's a good Dad/Husband; helpful;hard worker etc etc... I didn't give the shyte slippers headspace to ruin Xmas.

I took them back pretty promptly, life goes on...

I haven't read the moaning threads so maybe my blood pressure would be up if I had! I do have my mum though not all my babies and ds has just told me I'm not his friend anymore (he has chickenpox so I'm being understanding!). Pah. Roll on my wedding anniversary for the next day of disappointment!

Boo, I wasn't trying to trivialise what others are feeling, just point out that this is one of the toughest days of the year for some people, and certain attitudes must make it even harder.

Yes, of course you're entitled to moan about it, but I'm also entitled to moan about your moaning

*general 'you/your', not specific.

and we can moan about you moaning about our moaning. Yeah! It's a never-ending circle of moaning that will eventually self-combust.

Presumably there is one person on earth who has it worse than anyone and is therefore allowed to moan. They probably don't have the internet though. What pisses me off more than the moaning is the competitive martyrdom. TOTU is a perfect example of someone who doesn't do that.what a good attitude ... life can be hard, it could be worse but everyone needs a little moan about trivial crap sometimes.