to be annoyed at those who are moaning about what they did/didn't get for Mother's Day?

[curiositykitten]

When there are those out there today, who don't have their own Mothers, or their children with them?

I feel incredibly lucky that I have children, and I still have my Mother. The thought that there could ever be a time that something material could ever be more important than that... it sickens me.

Don't be so bloody ungrateful.

Hmmm. I think that this is an open forum and that feeling unappreciated or that you got a crap present that emphasised that is a fairly valid thing to care about. Otoh, my dad died when I was a kid so I expect mumsnet to now delete all posts complaining about dads, and ds is sn so any complaints about nt kid is unacceptable. Ok?

What op is saying is people should be grateful for what they get as there is more to life than gifts. My brother died at 16 how do u think my mother feels today -she doesnt care about gifts she cares that me and my sister are still here for her.

yabu

I had a great mothers day and I am allowed to enjoy it, or not - how someone else feels about their own day does not make my feelings invalid.

I still have my mother but I have lost two of my children. I know how lucky I am to have my son and although my DH has been away for the past eight weeks my Mum took my son shopping (he's almost three) for a card and present for me.

We went to the cemetery today to leave flowers for the two babies we lost and yes it was a very sad point of the day. But all in all it was a good day. DS and I had lunch with my parents, we gave my mother her card and gifts and DS gave me mine (yesterday actually as he got a bit excited about waiting) and it was lovely. We had a good day even with the sadness.

But I wouldn't want to think anyone who didn't have a good day to feel they couldn't feel hurt or upset just because of me. I don't want my losses to be used as a reason for someone else to feel that at least their life isn't as bad as mine, or used as a reason to berate someone.

There have been occasions when I wish people had been more thoughtful, such as the story I told on another thread about PILs shouting at us after our son was stillborn because we didn't feel up to sending Mothers Day or Father's Day cards that year.

But more than the card and the present, the day was acknowledged for me and for my Mum today and I think we both felt appreciated. And that's the important thing for me and probably the reason why so many people felt unhappy. A small gesture can mean a lot.

I don't think people like my PILs and many others judging by the threads here should be complaining or ranting, but feeling a little hurt and wanting a quiet moan is understandable in some cases.