To feel sad

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I have 2 small children who both made me beautiful mothers day cards at play group and do not expect oh to buy anything for me, from them. But yesterday I was out all day on a course about an hours drive away. When I came home I noticed a supermarket bunch of flowers just left lying on the table with the bag wrapped around the stems. So I just put them as they were in some water and forgot about them. This morning I asked who the flowers were for as i thought he may have got them for his mum and she forgot to take them, oh replied, oh they were for you. Turns out his mother who doesn't particularly like me picked them up at his request. I am sad because A. He got his mother to pick them up, and B. They were dumped on the table all afternoon and he didn't even give them to me. Feeling sad and worthless, this is what they think I deserve. Do you think it's awful to feel a bit sad about it?

The home made cards are worth a million times more than the flowers.

No, I'd feel a bit sad too. It's not much to ask to get a little bit of fuss and to feel appreciated.

My DP got his mum to get my card (i had to get his mums as well)

Thirty fucking five and he can't nip to the shop himself and pick up a card, or even sit and do a picture with DD for ten minutes.

That's crap and you have every right to feel sad.I hate it when people do token things- I mean why bother? Don't worry though; as Usual said the cards are worth a million flowers that will die. I am 40yrs old and my mom still puts up the first card I made her at infant school! Much to my chagrin!

Not sure why your DH is getting you a card for mothers day, or did I miss the
point? Your DCs cards sound lovely ......

Yeah the cards I will love forever and I know my kids love me, I don't need anything else. His mother was here all day she didn't just drop flowers off. She didn't even put them in water, just makes me realise what they all think of me I know we don't get on but as a fellow mother/w

/woman I'd think she would act differently

My husband buys me a card on Mother's Day to say thanks, likewise I buy for him on Father's day.

I wouldn't give a stuff about the MIL, but your DH is a thoughtless shite.

Thank you for reassuring me I'm not a completely ungrateful cow. I don't know why I even expect mil to behave differently she never has before

YANBU.... and if you're hacked off, say so rather than feeling 'a bit sad' on a website. People will assume you're happy with their thoughtless behaviour unless you tell them otherwise.

I can understand you feeling sad about the flowers not being put in water but you seem to contradict yourself because you say you didn't want/expect anything more than the cards from your children and then when you also have flowers you seem disappointed.

As you never expected them in the first place you are still int he same position you were before them, of having two beautiful cards made by your children.

I got a few presents along with the cards made by my children but tbh its the cards that really mean something.

People only say 'I don't expect anything' when they are trying to insure themselves against disappointment. Most people, whatever they say, are delighted when friends and family make an effort on special days.

Just concentrate on the cards you did get. It's a shame about the flowers though, it would probably annoy me too.
I am sad as DH didn't bother to get me a card from DS, it's not normally something I would be bothered about, but it is my first Mothering Sunday. He said he assumed I would buy one myself!

There's actually much more to it but not going to bore everyone. I was disappointed as I Think if you do something it should be whole hearted or not at all. Infact I feel really mad at him now It's just the cherry on the top of a horrible relationship. I've only been staying with him because I'm too scared to make the break and actually I think I deserve better actually. Is that woman enough second coming?

No I didn't mean it like that i thank you all. I have mentioned it and after a tirade of emotional abuse he has left. I'm kind of relieved but scared to death. I know nobody really wants to be a single parent when faced with it and I am really not looking forward to the next few weeks. Thanks again for your opinions. Isn't it awful when you loved somebody so so much and now it's all gone.

It wasn't the actual flowers it was the fact they were chucked on the table he never even gave them to me I hoped they weren't for me. I wished he hadn't bothered but actually it's done me a favour, I think!

Did you ever feel you'd let your children down? I do

They are Almost 2 and 4 my mum has been round to see me today and reassured me but it's still so hard my children love their dad so much and I feel so awful they will be upset or That they will hate me for it. I'm now worried he might come back and I know I just can't do it any longer I just want it to end it's ruining my life