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AIBU?

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Original poster

Probably.

35 replies

bagelmonkey · 18/03/2012 08:30

I'm feeling a bit :(

DH left at 7:30 this morning to travel to his parents to take his sister to the airport (she's emigrating) & to be there for PIL who will be v upset (my idea that he went. No problem with that. Too far for a day trip with DD & we all went down a couple of weeks ago for too long a few days for the goodbye family party)

He got me a mothers day card from 13 month old DD. I was delighted.
Then he showed me the card he got for MIL - to NAN, (ie also from DD), and the HUGE box of chocolates 'DD' also got for MIL.

AIBU to be pissed off that my DD got a gift for MIL for mothers day?
I wish he would just give the gift and a card from himself.

OP posts:
squeakytoy · 18/03/2012 08:31

YABU

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 18/03/2012 08:33

The gift and the card should be from him, I've never understood the whole idea of giving granny a present from the grandchildren on Mother's Day. The clue is in the name of the day surely?

Rillyrillygoodlooking · 18/03/2012 08:33

Did you get a huge box of chocs as well? If not then Yanbu Wink

MrsCampbellBlack · 18/03/2012 08:34

Surely its because he knows upset she's going to be at her DD emigrating?

Westcountrylovescheese · 18/03/2012 08:36

Aw shucks... Her daughter is emigrating on Mothers day. I reckon she needs the chocs whoever they are from...

nenevomito · 18/03/2012 08:36

Yes I'd be irritated too!

squeakytoy · 18/03/2012 08:38

Cant understand why someone would be pissed off at what is a nice gesture from a son to his mother..

My stepson has sent flowers to both his Nans today.

Original poster
bagelmonkey · 18/03/2012 08:42

I do think she needs chocolates (& flowers), but from HIM. Not as a MOTHER'S day gift from my DD.

No gift for me, but I wasn't expecting one. I'm delighted with my card.

OP posts:
fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 18/03/2012 08:42

Can you imagine your DD being grown up and emigrating away? The chocs are a nice gesture to cheer her up, chocs for you are not really a huge deal are they?

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 18/03/2012 08:44

Gifts from grandchildren are really special to grannies.

YAB enormously U IMO.

DPrince · 18/03/2012 08:44

I don't get the getting something for grandparents for mothers/fathers day. However under the circumstances I would let it slide.

squeakytoy · 18/03/2012 08:48

So OP, if you got your mum a box of chocs, as a present "from your daughter to her gran", and your husband got pissed off about it, would you not think he was being rather petty?

as for the clue is in the word.. well yes... grandMOTHER..

I assume your MIL is intelligent enough to work out that her 13month old granddaughter would not have gone out and bought the chocolates and card herself...

MrsKittyFane · 18/03/2012 08:48

Whilst they are out go and buy yourself a massive box of chocolates from you to you (I thought mothers day cards/ presents were from DC to mothers but hey, if he wants to mix things up...)

fuzzpig · 18/03/2012 08:52

Bit weird to get nanny a present from your DD and none for you, IMO. Unless you'd specifically said 'no presents'

MadameMessy · 18/03/2012 08:52

cut them all a break.
you got a card-great
mils daughter is emigrating, why begrudge her chocolates, no matter who they are from.
your dhs sister is emigrating, maybe you weren't at the top of his list of priorities, but he still got you a card

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 18/03/2012 08:58

I am really surprised that everybody is so princessy about Mother's Day, really.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 18/03/2012 08:58

not everyone but it's a really prevalent attitude.

MadameMessy · 18/03/2012 09:03

as am I, fanjo. similar in my mind to Valentines day.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 18/03/2012 09:05

yes.. i got photos etc for the two grannies and am taking my mum out for day and i will prob get something DH has picked up but at the moment he is having a lie in as he is tired and I am making brekkie..not bothered either.

MrsKittyFane · 18/03/2012 09:22

Fanjo : yes.. i got photos etc for the two grannies and am taking my mum out for day and i will prob get something DH has picked up
sounds like a hell of a lot of mother's day there TBH.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 18/03/2012 09:32

yes, for MILs, my point was that people are princessy about it for themselves.

Maybe read what I said without quoting me trying to make me look like a hypocrite.

I also said I wasn't bothered what I got for myself..if you had quoted my whole statement that would have been clear.

"and i will prob get something DH has picked up but at the moment he is having a lie in as he is tired and I am making brekkie..not bothered either."

Don't let the facts get in the way of trying to make me look silly though.

effingwotsits · 18/03/2012 09:34

Yanbu. I can see why you're annoyed. I would be too.

maytheoddsbeeverinyourfavour · 18/03/2012 09:39

YANBU

I think its lovely he's so good to his mum, and I think its lovely he got her the chocs, but how hard would it have been for him to pick up something for you too?

maytheoddsbeeverinyourfavour · 18/03/2012 09:40

Fanjo do you consider your mum and mil to be princessy about mothers day?

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 18/03/2012 09:42

no, because they don't expect it and get huffy if I didn't do it.

That's what I meant, people expect loads and get offended if it isn't delivered.

Anyway it's jusut my humble opinion, that I don't understand it, no need for everyone to get all huffy and give me a roasting is there? What does it matter what my opinion is, I didn't say you were all c* * *s did i?