To think this is just rude

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A friend went to a birthday party armed with a nice gift only to be handed it back by the child saying I have this already I don't want another, which isn't great but then the mother comes over and says yes she has got it can you change it for something different, then asked for something which is £6 more expensive, personally I think they don't deserve anything now!

OMG yes that's very rude.

I would probably have given them the receipt and told them to sort it out themselves.

The mother weas rude. She has no business telling anyone what to spend on her DC.

*was rude

At which point you return the item and do not replace. How astoundingly rude!

I'd not exchange it for anything else but tell the child that I will give the present to someone else who isn't as lucky as they are!

Very rude. My DSs have sometimes been given duplicate presents and I just keep them and given them to someone else for their birthday. I wouldn't mention the duplication to who gave the present, just thank them nicely.

OMG what a rude mother - can see where the child gets it from!

Personally I'd tell her you've lost the receipt and that she can take it to the charity shop if she doesn't want it.

How ungrateful and rude. I would have taken it back and as Debsbear says given it to someone else who was more deserving.

The correct response to any gift is Thank you - I don't give a teeny tiny shiney shite if you have one already - regift it knobbo!

What a brat, how old was the child? The mother sounds like a total bitch as well. Difficult if it was the start of the party but I'd have left taking my unwanted gift with me and wouldn't be buying anything else.

Child is six so she can be forgiven for blurting it out I guess but I'd like to think my six year old wouldn't do that

That is pig ignorant.

They wouldn't be getting anything else from me!

Outrageous! I remember as a kid, often receiving duplicate presents and if i mentioned it, my mum poking and hissing me to shut up and be grateful and not let on I already had it.... (present then usually got recycled to another party)
The child will grow up with atrocious manners with a mother like that
How dare they try and make you feel bad!

6 is old enough to know better, not his fault if he hasn't been taught any manners I suppose.

Give them a goat...think that's about £5.

I had to have a conversation with my DS (7) when he got duplicate present this Christmas and was disappointed. Explained to him it's not just the gift he needs to consider but that someone has made the effort for him: they've gone to a shop, spent time choosing something and then spent their money on him. To disregard that is rude - smile politely, say thank you and exchange it yourself or put in the present drawer.

What's your friend going to do - not buy the more expensive gift?

This is why there is never ever time to open presents at a birthday party

My kids don't even point out to my parents that they've already got the same thing (even though it's normally my parents who gave it to them . My in-laws gave my 3 year old a cheap copy of the playmobil Noahs Ark for Christmas and had obvioulsy forgotten that they bought the "real thing" a couple of years ago for my son! and my parents have given my oldest son the same mouse mat three times!

Very rude. I am that people do this.

I'm seriously in at this.

No wonder the child is rude if the mother is that rude.

but with a mother like that the poor child has no chance

The apple does not fall far from the tree. Return but do not get another present.

It should shock me but it doesn't. My sister a little girl I knew was very snooty about some presents she got. One memorable time she refused to say thank you to our aunt because "why should I say thank you for a present I don't like?" Said in a very matter-of-fact rather loud voice. erm... because that's the right thing to do? The polite thing to do? Brat.

Incredibly rude, dreadfully bad manners.