To think this is just rude

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A friend went to a birthday party armed with a nice gift only to be handed it back by the child saying I have this already I don't want another, which isn't great but then the mother comes over and says yes she has got it can you change it for something different, then asked for something which is £6 more expensive, personally I think they don't deserve anything now!

my son (aged 7) was recently given a toy. He looked at it and said "thank you very much" to the person who kindly gave it to him

After we had left the building, he said to me "I already have this one mummy". to which I replied "oh well, now you have 2!"

He plays with both of them.

Children should not be allowed to get away with being as rude and ungrateful as this child was to you. Dreadful behaviour.

We got a duplicate book. Now they have one each :). That mother is very rude.

I would do as has already been said and forget all about replacing it with something else. My kids get a fair number of duplicates and we never say anything and some are actually okay to have two of. If you feel you must get a replacement, get a goat from Oxfam or something then it doesn't matter how many they have already!!!

Incredibly rude. I'd say at six, the child ought to know better, but perhaps not in this case, as she clearly hasn't been taught any manners by her mother.

I wouldn't replace it - just give it to charity instead.

My niece would have the same response to a gift if it was a pencil or gold barbie doll - 'OOOO thank you - thank you Soooooo much - I lovvvvee it!!!' with a huge grin, hug and a kiss.

Half the time she hadn't a clue what the thing was but she was beautifully trained my BD and his wife.

Children can be painfully direct. tact is something learned. Unfortunately, with a Mother like the one she has, the birthday girl isn't likely to learn anything of the sort.

I'd have shown her up and said that if she was going to be so picky thern she should have had the brass neck to go with her brass balls and sent a list beforehand.

That girl's birthday party is going to be pretty damn quiet next year!

Very rude imo. My four year olds know not to say anything so I'm pretty surprised that a six yo hasn't been taught to keep quiet.

If we get duplicates I either regift them next time my two get a party invite or give them to the local food bank who sometimes put out appeals for toys eg at Christmas.

In the op's circumstances it might depend quite how rude I thought the mother was but my inclination would be not to buy a replacement gift.

How rude. I am always horrified that children (my own included!!) expect a present whenever they have a birthday party. I am trying to instil in them that it really should be enough that their friends have come to the party and any present (duplicate or otherwise) is a privilidge.

gift receipts are useful and go down well but it's very rude to demand the exchange. I'd still take the whole thing back with receipt and not give them anything else.

Very rude.

I wouldn't be replacing.

Very rude.

Duplicates happen, in fact DD received a late present today from some very generous friends of my parents. She will keep one of the item at home, and have one at her grandparents' house.

Parent is very rude.

When my DCs were younger, I coached them about what to say if this happened, although once, one of them did say "I've already got this but 2 is even better!"

I would so get a refund, then buy them a goat instead.

this has happened to me. i bought a friend's dd something and friend said she already had one. could i please buy her something else while handing it back! i think it's very very rude.

the mum is very rude. the child was rude but sometimes kids are like that, i would like to think they grow out of it by 6 but i dunno as my oldest is 3. my 3 yrs has said stuff like that before but i dont tolerate it, told him off a lot! so embarrasing when they say those kind of things! the mum should defintely know better though she has no excuse

yy Stratters - that would be a great idea

Or some books for a school in Africa... I think you'd get the message over loud and clear

Precisely, and I doubt it will be duplicated unless you'd like to do the same next year - I would

"dear mrs rude and child, we've returned johnnys present and panted the money to charity to help a child who will be grateful" sincerely blah blah blah.

Well that's what I'd want to do, anyway!

Panted the money? donated of course!

Crikey that is so rude! We have someone in our family that behaves like that. Giving their children presents is a really unpleasant experience, they NEVER acknowledge them (even face to face!) and frequently toss them aside saying "already got one of them". Parents say nothing or sympathise with them. I am thinking of just not giving them presents at all anymore.

OriginalJamie how absolutely lovely! Your kids sounds great!

Thankyou cherries. I did hold my breath when he started to say it, because I'd had the discussion about pretending you hadn't already got something - which confused him a bit as he thought that counted as lying. But it turned out he dealt with it beautifully ....... He was 8 at the time (and it was Lego )

Gosh. How rude. When this happened to us we just regifted the 2 duplicates!