To think this is bloody rude!

[vanillacremebrulee]

So DS1 is 10 years old, DS2 is 8 years and DS3 is 6 weeks old and very colicky and shouty bless his heart! No need to say that I'm sleep deprived and stressed and hardly managing to survive at the moment.
Well, two weeks ago the mother of a friend of DS2 invited him to play at her house because her DD is good friends with him and because that would "relieve" me of one child for an afternoon.
Tonight, after a VERY difficult afternoon of inexplicable crying and lots of other things going on, said mother of DS's friend rings me and has the cheek to say this:
"Have you had a chance to think when (DD's name) could come to yours to play with (DS2's name)"
I was like "Hmmm...not sure things are a bit hectic..." and then she goes "How about the 31st March, would that be alright for you?"....
Honestly I don't know why but I find it incredibly rude that she would push me for a date to have her daughter to come and play at ours even though I'm sure I must have said that next time it's our turn! Maybe it's because I'm having a hard day but the whole thing really really pisses me off!

Well done OP.

Yes good for you op. I also want to know what she said and what you said .

Oh I said - in quite an angry tone i think -"as you can hear we have a colicky baby and 8.30 in the morning on a Saturday is not ok and actually that time would not be ok even if we did not have a baby! A couple of hours in the afternoon is all I can manage at the moment" to which - wait for it - she replied "oh never mind then"!!
Then I said "alright then" and I hanged up!
Stupid cow

She sounds like a cheeky cow.

There was a mum when my eldest was at infant school who would march into the playground with her diary and then say 'What are you doing on X date? Nothing? Ah good could you pick up Hannah from school that day and have her until 7pm, I have a meeting'. I said no to her every time she asked and after a few times she stopped talking to me and blanked me forever more. Result!

Ffs selfish stupid cow. Tell her to do one.

Well done you!! :)

She was very rude, very pushy and very stupid!

You should have kids over because either it makes your kids happy and/or helps someone out - you should never have them expecting a 'return invite'. People who expect return invites and don't invite a child again until their child has had a return invite are miserable buggers.

If you don't want kids over - say No, if you do then say Yes, but don't be pissing around with 'expected return invites' - it's pathetic.

Good for you, I'm so glad you got quite angry with her and hung up on her. It's the way she went about it- if she'd said, look, I know you've just had a baby but I'm really stuck for childcare on the 31st, is there any way you can help me, then fair enough. It was really naughty, IMO, to invite DS over so she could try to obligate you into returning the favour- and then some.