to think we should have a "rape and sexual assault" section on MN?

[CailinDana]

Of the back of the "We Believe You" campaign would it be a good idea to have a section where people could post about rape/sexual assault without fear that they will be questioned? I have noticed quite a few times that when a poster talks about an assault in the relationships section there always tend to be a few numpties who start asking why they went where they did or why they didn't scream and shout. Such responses must be crushing for someone who has just plucked up the courage to talk.

I am thinking such a section would be predicated on the "We Believe You" idea, in that no victim will be grilled and support will always be given. In fact, it could be called "We Believe You." As such it would have to have strict guidelines and be pretty heavily moderated, and as such might be a nightmare to run. Still it might be worth it.

AIBU?

SEAIt's not about what it'll bring to the website, but to the individual posters.

I don't think it's fun at the moment either, but mainly because of the idiots the site seems to attract and the harm they do to people in distress.

op asked for opinions, that's mine

hate the way these sort of things are also asked on aibu

there is a site stuff topic

I think AIBU is the 'go to' place because of high traffic.

for me personally a place to talk about it without judgement or blame would be fantastic. however the risk of some nasty fucker using my experience for kicks and leaving me in shreds is just too much. it would far outweigh any benefit talking about it anonymously would have for me and it couldn't ever be a 'safe' place. i think even if it did exist, the fear that someone would do that to me would prevent me ever using it.

I don't think the PM idea will fly because the PM system is so awkward. It would become unmanageable I think.

My current opinion on the matter is that it would only really work if it was quite heavily moderated, which isn't going to happen on MN as it stands.

Why not move the thread to Site Stuff or report the thread to MNHQ and ask them Cailin? I think this is something that's worthy of extra resources and moderation and Mumsnet clearly takes rape seriously hence the campaign.
If we don't ask, we won't get and I think it's a great idea and kind of you to think of it.

Perhaps MN could invite a counsellor from Rape Crisis to come and do an extended webchat? Allow people to talk under the watchful eye of the counsellor and moderator? Too much?

i think with the publicity the webelieveyou campaign has brought to MN recently a webchat would be perfect for derailment. moderation can only go so far and once a comment has been read it can't be unread if that makes sense? maybe i am overthinking this. i am actually panicking at the thought of someone using my experience for their own kicks/agenda/whatever.

Booyhoo says everything I wanted to say, but better. I don't think you're overthinking it, Booyhoo.

I totally understand what you're saying Booyhoo and I think it's a valid concern.