to ask how to stop developing a crush on a work collegue

[newpen]

I've n/c for this one and I did post on relationships but most of the answers were about why I should leave dp rather than how to stop thinking about other-man . AIBU to just ask for any practical tips that anyone has?

Quick scene set

I am in a LT relationship, children etc. Financialy dependant on dp.

dp can be quite controlling and emotionally/verbally abusive at times.

dp appears to lack interest in me - he will listen to me talking if I ask him to but does not reply - so no conversation in the evening etc. I still want to sit up all night changing the world, he wants to watch football and then fall asleep on the sofa. He also thinks that the Daily Mail talks a lot of sense and can come across as quite racist and intolerant - this appears to be getting worse with age.

Problem is
I met someone through work last week - I do not work with him (very different locations) but I can't stop thinking about him. We did sit up all night changing the world.

So how do I stop thinking about him? Practical suggestions welcomed please I am afraid that I will build this up in my head into something that it is not and then completely go to pieces if (and when) I do come across him (professionally) again

I have no reason to think that he feels the same way.

I included the scene setting as background - I'm not looking for an affair but do desparately just need a friend and have no one that I can talk to (as controlling partner and physically isolated home location make it difficult - I usually work from home)

Plumpdog it is mainly the former but that is why I am trying to change my circumstances - build up my career, also kids will get older etc.

I have thought about the current realationship very deeply - I do love dp and he loves me but I'm not sure that the love is a truely healthy love experienced between equals. I think that I have grown apart from him - more grown out of - and that he loves his image of me rather than the actual me. But now is not the time to leave for a multitude of (the usual and boring) reasons.

newpen - it sounds to me as if you need a fantasy life at the moment as a sort of 'safe place' while you get on with the hard - and often boring - job of getting to a place where you can make clearer decisions for yourself.
It sounds very harmless, tbh.
But also, try and 'treat' the boredom that's left a place for a random crush. Try and get out as much as possible, do all you can to find people to communicate with. All of those things.

Convince yourself that he is a woman beater/secretly homosexual/has both gender organs/is incestuous with his sister.

eeew Lovehandles. Must you??

Sorry. All the other ideas were shot down. Thought maybe one of those may help. Surely no one would find the 2 most hideous of those things a huge turn on???

Tell DP that you are considering leaving him for someone who shows you a bit more respect. Might make him stop taking you for granted, and think about how he is treating you. You haven't actually done anything wrong so he can't blame you for this