...to get annoyed by childless people's comments

[MumbleMumm]

My personal favourite so far is "I would like to breast feed, but not the way you do it" because I don't use a cape to cover me, mainly because the fight that would go on with my dd flailing limbs isn't worth the hassle and would leave me being far more exposed than if I just try and be discreet!

Anybody else got any gems for me?

Why would a childless person 'like to breastfeed'?

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so you want to slag of childless people....why?

Who cares what they say or think, until they actually do it they have no idea of the realities.

Maybe it's their way of hinting to you there is no need to lob both boobs out in a cafe and rest them on a table when your baby is still asleep in the pram

I was childless once. This is why I cut anyone else who is some slack. I at the memory of some of the things I thought. And unfortunately sometimes said.

YusMilady - we were having a conversation about whether she'd have children, and I was breastfeeding at the time.

I want to slag them off (well the ones that make stupid comments) because they keep judging me as a parent without having been a parent. Other than that I have no qualms with childless people.

lol Molehillmountain - me too!! I just wondered if anyone else was getting a hard time too!

Oh I said plenty when I was childless that I now realise, 3 DC's later, is a load of bollocks

I pay no attention whatsoever to childless people - especially those in a professional capacity who do their learning from books.

Mine is probably: "You're home all day! You could at least do the housework"

this was when DS was two weeks old, we had only been home four days

I died inside.

'I have no qualms with childless people'

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YaNbu to be irritates by that persons comment, but that irrespective of if they have a child or not.

Actually comments from people who already have children are often more irritating in my experience.

3boys. And dammit I wish of thought to say that

proudnscary - sorry let me rephrase. My childless friends a pi**ing me right off right now, but usually I find them to be wonderful caring friends.

Ah, so you mean 'people who haven't had kids yet'. Not 'people who don't want kids'. I think the former are more likely to be bothered about your parenting choices than the latter. I'm childless and couldn't care less about breastfeeding.

I don't think that's judgement, OP, merely opinion. Some people aren't confident enough to bf in public without a covering of some type. I think wanting to slag someone off for being nervy like that is extremely harsh.

The worst is when someone who has just had their first starts dishing out their pearls of wisdom.

Everyone's entitled to an opinion. I don't know how to run the country but it doesn't stop me having an opinion on the wankers who do.

I appreciate that was a stupid comment but I hate the attitude that childless people know nothing about children. I'd rather leave my children with a childless friend I have than some mum friends. She's not bogged down with parent paranoia.

People without children can know a lot about children. The assumtion that they don't is silly. I was childless for a long time because of fertitity problems and it always annoyed me that people thought I knew nothing about kids.

People without children are obviously going to be ignorant of what it is like to have children as they haven't got any. They are not stupid comments as they don't know, naive maybe, but not stupid. If they have said 'stupid things' they will be their own worst critiques once they have children of their own and realise. I am always just grateful that I am not a childless person as i was for so long and wanted to not be. A few daft comments are nothing in comparison. you should let it go. Big deal.

Well, I think YANBU, it's fair enough.

I get annoyed with parents' comments, too, but such is life.

I doubt having children will make your mates any better judges of character or action, though. Take that how you will!

DoomCats - fair point! I think we probably would have fairly different parenting styles even if they do have kids.

Poinsetta - yes, probably right, naive not stupid. But still frustrating, as I know I am being judged in my actions. I don't think I was ever comparing being childless nd the pain that can cause to stupid actions - I was childless for a long time myself, and I would say I was stupid, I said some really crazy things. Doesn't make me any less frustrated now though!

My personal favourite so far is "I would like to breast feed, but not the way you do it"

What if the person saying that did have children?

I assume you wouldn't then be annoyed by it?

It makes no difference if people have their own children. People with none can know lots about them, and people with them can know nothing.
I have several children, that makes me qualified only to know about my children, no-one elses. But assuming people who are child-free are not entitled to their opinions about children is both stupid and offensive.

Or maybe you got the wrong end of the stick and s/he was asking for a drink?!