Ok, I'm pretty sure iabu so am not going to do anything about it but just wanted to know if I'm being a total cowbag or not.
First mother's day this year. Spent 4 years ttc so it's a huge milestone for me, one I thought I'd never see. Unfortunately am now separated from h so feeling quite teary about the whole thing.
So in other words this first mother's day is going to be massively emotional for me as I'll be so happy to be a mummy but very sad it's not how I imagined it would be.
My mother came to visit the other day and announced "this year for mother's day I've decided to hold a lunch for everyone". That was it, not a question, an announcement.
She went on to say it's because she thinks it will be the best solution for everyone. My sister's bil is very ill and her fil recently passed.away so understandably her and her husband will want to spend time with his mother. So she has invited her too to save them having to split their time between the two mother's. Fair enough I think.
She also says it will be easier for her as she can invite my nanna so saves her the trip of going there. She thinks it will be lovely for us all to be together at the same time so no one feels torn. Completely understand all that so have said nothing, just smiled along.
The thing is I feel upset about it and I don't know why. I think it's mainly because I feel like I've been railroaded. Like "this is what's happening" end of. Like what I may want to do hasn't even been considered. I know I'm going to find the day very bitter sweet and so I'd pretty much decided to spend it just me and ds. I would obviously have visited both my mother and nanna but done it when I felt up to it and then left if and when I needed too. With this dinner I know it will be a most-of-the-day thing. We'll be there from mid morning until early evening.
I don't know, I'm rambling, I think I'm just upset at it not being acknowledged that it's my first mother's day and asked what I wanted to do. It's a really special first and I just feel like it's been taken over.
I'm not going to say anything and of course I will paint on my smile and make.sure no one knows how I feel but AIBU to feel like this? And if so how do I stop it?