for thinking it's not ok for my 9mo to have alcohol

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For thinking it's NOT OK for a 9 month old baby to have alcohol. Even if it is licking wine off someone's finger.
Ok, so I'm not talking about a bottle of beer but I don't think I'm being PFB either.

Hmm. I dipped my finger into my wine glass to let DD suck it as 18 months because she was absolutely hysterical that I was withholding 'juice' from her, despite me explaining many times that it was not juice and was just for mummy. She doesn't ask now, or try to take the glass.

Psammead my kids call it "mummy Ribena"...

dnbu
alcohol is a poison and you wouldnt give a child arsenic,would you?

YANBU. Just no need.

Letting a baby have alcohol isn't the same watering down wine to give to an older child.

It certainly isn't the same as drinking while pregnant.

People should have respect for other people's children - you do not feed them without asking the parent. It's fucking rude.

If you want to give your child drugs, go ahead. Yes alcohol is a drug, let's not pretend now and let's not try and emulate "The French" - which is the usual excuse trotted out.

YANBU!

My grandfather tried dunking my DS' dummy into his glass of wine when he was 6 months old I shouted No! pretty loudly. He said 'oh, it did us no harm when we were babies'. I retorted, this is not the 1930's anymore, I'd appreciate it if you do not do that again or ever.

I know it won't seriously harm but I'd rather not be put in a position where I have to explain I don't like something wrt my child that someone else sees as perfectly fine. It is your child after all.

I don't think arsenic and alcohol are comparable.

What do people feel about using alcohol in cooking? A splash of red in bolognese sauce? It doesn't break down half as quickly as people assume.

Psammead, I know which is why I don't give my children food cooked with booze.

Cooking removes the alcohol.

Sorry, it doesn't. See this chart

Even after 2 hours of cooking time, 10% of alcohol remains.

It doesn't bother me occasionally if parents are the finger providers.
It would bother me a little if someone not the child's parent gave them a literal single drop.

And more than that might peeve me.
Methinks we don't know the details, here.

I saw my SIL's mother feeding the welcome drink (champagne mixed with some kir type thing) to SIL's 7 months old baby at her wedding. I was a bit and thought 'I'd be really pissed off if anyone did that to my baby'.

About half an hour later SIL was standing holding the baby and then proceeded to do EXACTLY the same thing

It's illegal to give children under five alcohol - here - and I'm surprised so few people know this. Or perhaps they don't care?

After a quiet new years eve in with friends the next morning I was washing up and I turned round to find ds had fished a can out the recycle box pretending to "drink beer like daddy".

Needless to say the recycle box was banished to the garage and we are more careful about where we leave (any) drinks now

OK, so I'm going to be the odd one out here - but surely one drop given to a baby isn't going to harm them. Its only one drop. I'm prepared for a flaming.

I'd be furious! Apart from anything else it's just so unnecessary.

Iloved - no, not harmful, but I would be put out if someone else decided to give my child a bit of alcohol. Same goes for coffee, tea, sweets etc. And it wouldn't occur to me to give her any unless she was really curious about it in which case I see nothing wrong with a drop-on-finger approach.

FWIW I still cook with a little alcohol. A shot glass of wine in sauce, cooked and diluted in all the rest of the sauce even if 40% of the alcohol does remain,by the time my toddler has had her 2or 3 teaspoonsful of it, it cannot equate to more than the smallest finger-coating. I really do not see the harm in that.

Ah, different thing if someone else is deciding what your baby should eat without your permission, but even then, one drop is nothing. Give it a few years and they'll be stuffing their faces with all sorts of stuff.

But why is it even necessary? I just don't get why it's seen as something you would give a child. Probably my "issue" with the damage alcohol does.

YANBU

Stupid MIL was letting DS1 suck vodka off her finger at his christening,

I'd bee suspicious of anyone who felt the need to do this. Perhaps they drink too much themselves and it's a way of making alcohol seem harmless

X post stranded. That's not something I'd thought of - doing it to put them off

It isn't legal to give a 5 yr old alcohol with a meal in a restaurant. It is legal for a 16 yr old to drink beer, wine or cider (not spirits) with a meal in a restaurant, but not under 16.

It is however legal for a child of 5 or over to drink alcohol at home.

I don't think most French people give wine, watered or otherwise to babies!