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Original poster

....to practise my 'yes'?

63 replies

weevilswobble · 08/03/2012 17:04

I think DP might propose on Saturday. Should i practise my response?? I dont want him to remind me that my first words were wtf? Or errrrr or some such rubbish. What immortal words shall i use?
I'll probably just say 'yes' in a baby voice.

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ImperialBlether · 10/03/2012 09:13

Hang on a minute.

So on Thursday you wanted to marry him and by now you want to dump him?

And a devious streak isn't the worst thing you could have!

ifancyashandy · 10/03/2012 09:19

Honey, if your 'friends' don't invite you to stuff because you're a single mum, then change your friends.

Seeing as you're having an emotional clear out 'n' all..!

(but sorry you're having a hard time)

NaughtyMrChicken · 10/03/2012 09:22
Confused
NaughtyMrChicken · 10/03/2012 09:23

Also what ifancy said

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weevilswobble · 10/03/2012 09:40

Ok i agree. There are 'friends' and 'people you know'
I guess i care too much what 'people i know' think. Fuck em.
I have some great friends. Grin

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GretaGarble · 10/03/2012 11:34

OK weevils - you cannot marry someone just because you want to be married. If you can go from wanting to say yes, even in a normal voice, to a marriage proposal you are expecting, to wanting to ditch him for good because he has made a negative comment about your child, I'd say this is probably not your forever relationship.

Soppy CDs will draw you back because you feel sentimental, or overemotional, or needy, but not because you love someone. Even if you feel like shit sometimes remember that your relationship will only be strong because you love one another, not because some songwriter wrote "you are the starlight leading me through" or "I want to beeee with you baybeeeee" or some such.

I NEVER give relationship advice, not sure what I am doing on this thread. Keep your heart up and give yourself a proper chance to be properly happy - that's all I mean.

Sorry things went pear-shaped.

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weevilswobble · 10/03/2012 11:55

Thanks Greta, i'm always giving advice, coz its easy to see the clear picture from a different perspective. My head just gets muddled and i cant see the wood for the trees when its my own situation. Stress hasnt helped either. I tend to give people what they want, put others first, but obviously thats not a good idea. I find it difficult to be like 'i'm gonna have wot i want'
.......anyway...... Thanks for your input, which is of course totally right. Gonna do some gardening now.....

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Original poster
weevilswobble · 13/03/2012 20:39

Said Yes. Grin

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Debeez · 13/03/2012 20:43

FFS.

Original poster
weevilswobble · 13/03/2012 21:13

Modern love n all that??ConfusedGrin
Recession??
PMT??

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BenedictsCumberbitch · 13/03/2012 21:34

What a bizarre thread.

rhondajean · 13/03/2012 21:38

Weevils, you must realise how fucked up this whole thing is...

And the on off on off is not good for your children, sorry, this is not how grown ups conduct a relationship ffs!

Everything great said is right. Tr to take a step back and think about it.

TheLaineyWayIsEssex · 14/03/2012 07:54

Bizarro

BelleEnd · 14/03/2012 07:59

?!?????!

OddBoots · 14/03/2012 08:01

Step off the fairground ride and think, think about your life in 10, 20, 30 years time.

Picture being at your lowest and sickest and this man being the one who looks out for you, picture your biggest aspirations and how this man will support you. Likewise think of him at his lowest and think about his life goals, can you care for and support him in those. Are you and any children you each have a real team who can face all life throws together?

MrsSleepy · 14/03/2012 08:02

WTAF!!!

Kayzr · 14/03/2012 08:04

I'm confused Confused

So we were hoping for proposal. Then didn't want to be with him as he said your DC has a devious streak(don't they all?)

Now you're engaged.

That's pretty fucked up. Hmm

My brain hurts from trying to work this out.

AThingInYourLife · 14/03/2012 08:06

Poor children :(

Bunbaker · 14/03/2012 08:06

Is this for real?

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weevilswobble · 14/03/2012 17:18

Its not that fucked up! Give me a break. There are a billion couples who mix their families together without a thought. We just argued about the kids and fell out about it. He then gave it 3 days solitary thought and decided to propose, which was what i was expecting. On top of that I had a bout of bad PMT making me react badly. Dispite that he still wants to marry me.
Does everyone else have much smoother lives then??

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valiumredhead · 14/03/2012 17:19

Yes.

Kayzr · 14/03/2012 17:22

Yes we obviously do. I have never gone from wanting to get married, to splitting up and getting married again in 3 small days.

maytheoddsbeeverinyourfavour · 14/03/2012 17:25

You do realise that while it's normal to argue and go through rough patches, it is not normal to go from considering marriage to wanting to break up to getting engaged within a few days?

NettoSuperstar · 14/03/2012 17:29

Right.
Are you always this drunk?

excitedLJ · 14/03/2012 17:29

my word, I'm soooo vanilla
must go find DH and demand divorce, in the hope that he will buy me something aaaamazing for mothers day/making up Hmm