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to think that announcing your new relationship on facebook

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oollddwoman · 06/03/2012 20:36

after you have only seen someone 4 or 5 times, is just bloody ridiculous?

Slightly understandable if I were perhaps talking about some love sick teens but when you're in your 40's and have children, aren't you generally a bit cooler about these things?

Tonight he has announced he loves her, after about 3 weeks. Really? It is making me cringe.

I'm sure the romantics out there will say I am a hideous cynic and others will think it is none of my business, but that is why I am posting here and not being bitchy on facebook.

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YellowDinosaur · 06/03/2012 20:40

I knew I was in love with dh and would marry him within a week. I was 30 so hardly a teenager. I was right too and were still together with 2 kids.

Didn't announced it on FB as not sure that really existed then but I did tell several friends and my family that I had met the man I was going to marry.

usualsuspect · 06/03/2012 20:41

It's ok to be nice on fb

sensuallettuce · 06/03/2012 20:48

Hmmm I know what you mean - I have a friend who is nearly 40 and nortoriously unlucky in love and has been in and out of about three "relationships" this year which I would find quite frankly embarrassing and another old school friend who seems to get engaged every few months and then "Keith is single" broken heart emotion - but I guess they are not hurting anyone it does make them lookd a little crap at relationships at best.

Saying that I was "in a relationship" a week after I met OH (previously been in an "its complicated" sitution for 3 years Hmm.

Two years on and I am beginning to feel very envious of all the recent "is engaged" Wink

londonmackem · 06/03/2012 20:53

My brother in law posted and hasn't even met her yet - only talked on phone. I think 6 months is a relationship, otherwise still dating!

faeriemoo · 06/03/2012 20:58

My 32-year-old ex-husband announced his new relationship status to his latest bit of stuff after two days - three days before he introduced her to the kids.

Today he announced to Facebook (his parents, siblings and elderly grandparents included) by way of video that he wanted to "fuck her like an animal".

Some people should just lay off the Facebook.

TattyDevine · 06/03/2012 21:01

Faeriemoo - you win!

BluddyMoFo · 06/03/2012 21:02

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oollddwoman · 06/03/2012 21:03

omg faerie, that is hideous.

I guess I am surprised at my friend. She has been single for about 6 months after a 20 year relationship. Her exp has met someone and she was moaning about the new woman posting it on fb and how she was upset that her ds's had already met the other woman. She told me she was in no hurry and that shewouldn't be introducing him for a while and then a week later they are all out together.

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troisgarcons · 06/03/2012 21:03

It amuses me no end .... "in a reltionship" ....3 days later "X changed status to single" .... it's beyond pathetic. What they really mean is "met a bloke, got shagged, he didn't phone after"

YellowDinosaur · 06/03/2012 21:05

Sniggering at faeriemoo :o

Londonmackem I was engaged to my now dh by 3 months. So you are, imho, talking Bollocks! :)

op despite my own personal experience I still think that what you describe can be very cringy depending on the people involved and whether they do this everytime they are in a new relationship.

sensuallettuce · 06/03/2012 21:06

*troisgarcons" Grin - I think with my friend he "meets" them online but then they spend a weekend together and its all gone tits up - nuts at our age...

troisgarcons · 06/03/2012 21:07

Today he announced to Facebook (his parents, siblings and elderly grandparents included) by way of video that he wanted to "fuck her like an animal".

He's a donkey? in more ways than one? Or she's a dog? Grin

fabwoman · 06/03/2012 21:11

I knew after 2 months I loved my boyfriend and my mate took the piss as we hadn't slept together yet. 16 years later I am married to him and we have had sex now Grin.

sensuallettuce · 06/03/2012 21:17

I used to take the piss out of people who fell in love very quickly esp after 12 yrs with my ex H I don't think I ever truly managed to completely fall in love with him Hmm

The 2nd time I met my current OH I knew I wanted to be with him forever....looking back I may quite possibly have been quite nauseating if FB about it too Blush

MyLittleMiracle · 06/03/2012 21:25

I fell in love at 15, made the biggest mistake that i let him go over not much, but was stubborn and hurt. He had betrayed me (not majorly nothing like cheating or anything), i then got married and hurt all over again. I am now back to being single and miss my first love so very much. We were meant to be I think, he understood me, knew my moods, knew when i needed a hug and didnt even need to be asked. I noticed one day that he was protecting me after we split. I was on a bus with a few mates (male), and one had their arm around me, they were also his mates,and had been before we got together, as soon as he got on, he immediately removed it, and looked guilty./ I am sure he still looked after me. Shame we can never be, I cant find him! Any one have any suggestions?

Adversecamber · 06/03/2012 21:37

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YouOldSlag · 06/03/2012 21:44

MyLittle Miracle- you need to write to Simon Bates and see if he' still doing "Our Tune"

(under 40s will scratch their heads at that one)

WorraLiberty · 06/03/2012 21:47

YOS I even read her post in Simon's voice Grin

QuacksForDoughnuts · 06/03/2012 21:50

I was fb official with OH after three weeks with two real-life dates, as we were living in different cities several hours apart. But we'd had enough discussion by email to establish that we were going to make a go of being an item, plus starting to meet each other's friends on that basis, so putting it on fb saved a bit of effort...

MyLittleMiracle · 06/03/2012 22:03

I am only 23! Please explain simon bates! Sorry. Maybe i am not over ExH, but i have always missed him, even during the happy times.

sensuallettuce · 06/03/2012 22:09

I am 36 I remember "Our Tune" they should seriously bring it back - does he still do it somewhere?

Always such a tragic story and then the tune Thanks

MyLittleMiracle · 06/03/2012 22:41

We never had a tune! We were friends and lovers. sounds stupid writing it down but we were and i think i will always miss him. When i left, a little bit of me stayed with him, just hope in times of trouble he can use that bit of me to pull through!

FilterCoffee · 06/03/2012 23:35

I can't think of anything nice to say about Facebook so I won't say anything at all :o

startail · 06/03/2012 23:41

DH and I had spent, perhaps 12 days together spread over six six weeks when he proposed.
That was almost 24 years agoGrin

HalfPastWine · 06/03/2012 23:45

Simon Bates is still doing 'Our Tunes' on Smooth radio every morning from 6am !!! I tend not to listen these days...to depressing!!!

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