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To not take parenting or relationship advice does from divorcee (who must not be named)

36 replies

DozyNosy · 06/03/2012 17:42

I'm not sure if I'm aloud to post the link, but if you search "Don't say no to sex" on the Daily Mail website you'll find relevant article about SWMNBN.

(Sorry if this has already been done, I've been out all day. Disclaimer - I do not actually read the DM)

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Moominsarescary · 06/03/2012 17:44

I did see something about it on tv this morning, cheeky cow telling women who have given birth a month before they shouldn't say no to sex

Moominsarescary · 06/03/2012 17:45

Yes you can post the link

Tee2072 · 06/03/2012 17:45

There have been several threads already, mostly deleted.

RobinSparkles · 06/03/2012 17:51

My MW told me that you shouldn't have sex until you've stopped bleeding after Childbirth. With DD1 I bled for 8 weeks and the thought of it was scary!

She who should not be named doesn't know what she's talking about.

Comments like the ones she has made are an insult to women (and men).

DozyNosy · 06/03/2012 17:59

I thought if I posted the link I might get booted off MN

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OriginalJamie · 06/03/2012 18:02

Hmmmm

Well, forgive me, but this being the DM and all, I'd rather read the source material to judge its veracity

OriginalJamie · 06/03/2012 18:04

DM would love a SWMNBN/MN/DM faceoff. The holy trinity

www.youtube.com/watch?v=5eBT6OSr1TI

fedupofnamechanging · 06/03/2012 18:11

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hairytaleofnewyork · 06/03/2012 18:16

Yanbu I agree with karma. I am six weeks post partum and had an episiotomy, third deg tear and forceps. Three weeks later an Erpc for retained placenta. I now have thrush and piles. Ms Ford can shove her relationship advice where the sun don't shine.

Whatmeworry · 06/03/2012 18:17

Person tells women to have sex shocker....next it will be drink water and eat food.

....and breathe.

DozyNosy · 06/03/2012 18:28

OriginalJamie Arf at the DM song

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carabos · 06/03/2012 18:59

In my day we were advised to have sex before the six week post partin check up so that if things didn't seem quite right we could mention it . However, with DS2 it did seem sensible so we got on with it after 3 months not 5 like with DS1

carabos · 06/03/2012 19:00

Post partum obviously.

HorribleDay · 06/03/2012 19:02

Just out of interest, WHY are we not allowed to discuss an article that is in the public domain? Why are all the threads relating to GF deleted? Surely if there's nothing slanderous or libelous then we should be allowed to talk about a point of view that has been expressed by her? Or am I being stupidly naive?

flippinada · 06/03/2012 19:53

I saw something about this today, friend mentioned it on FB. Ridiculous woman.

HorribleDay - the reason is, SWMNBN is very litigous and threatened MN with legal action after someone made a colourful and robust suggestion regarding SWMNBN and her parenting advice. This happened several years ago.

faeriemoo · 06/03/2012 19:56

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HorribleDay · 06/03/2012 19:57

Ah I see. Hmmm. If she doesn't want people discussing her maybe she should keep her mouth shut :)

flippinada · 06/03/2012 19:59

Yes faerie, that's what it boils down to, really. Very nasty.

HorribeDay, you didn't hear it from me! Wink

desperatenotstupid · 06/03/2012 20:53

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Memoo · 06/03/2012 20:56

Desperate, I think you're right.

Rhubarbgarden · 06/03/2012 21:16
Biscuit
troisgarcons · 06/03/2012 21:25

Of course - people are reading 'sex' as penatrative ... when infact shes saying

The controversial advice is published in The Contented Mother?s Guide, which aims to tell women how to stay intimate with the father of their child.

It warns that men can sometimes feel ?emotionally closed out? by a lack of intimacy following the birth of a baby

and

?It?s up to parents to decide, but after about four to six weeks I encouraged every family I worked with to go out for a lovey-dovey afternoon or evening when they got glammed up and were not allowed to talk about the baby.

and again ...

?Most of the men I speak to are pretty patient ? they understand that their wife is not going to feel up to it for a few weeks or months, but problems come when they are closed out emotionally.

Finally

X said women should not feel pressured into anything, but added that a healthy sex life makes a big difference.

desperatenotstupid · 06/03/2012 21:35

The first thing i asked my midwife when i had DD was when i could have sex Grin!!! I lasted three days, but then im a slut

OriginalJamie · 06/03/2012 21:36

If it's in the DM then of course it's "controversial"

As troisgarcons says, there's actually little to go on to conclude this.

Anyone read the book?

troisgarcons · 06/03/2012 21:37

Grin LMAO @desperatenotstupid - I came round from a GA from a C-section and was up for it Grin - clearly didnt as I was stuck in hospital for 5 days. I think it was 10 days.