To let my looks get me down

[neverquitesure]

It's my 4th wedding anniversary tomorrow so was going through my wedding photos with the children. Had a lovely time explaining it all to the children (and letting them try on my wedding dress ) but can't help feeling so sad that I didn't get to be the beautiful bride I felt in my head. It's almost a shock to look back and see this fugly goon wearing my dress and grinning at the camera in my place and I'm reminded why I never look back at them. Same thing with our Christmas photos, holiday photos, photos of me with the children as babies and so on.

Of course IABU and self centred and narcistic and I'm actually more than a little pissed off with myself about it. I am in good health, 1 happy healthy stepchild who adores me and 2 happy healthy children of my own (who also adore me I should add!) married to the man of my dreams and living a safe and well nourished existence in a democratic land of freedom and opportunity.

What the fuck right do I have to feel sorry for myself?

Someone please tell me to grow up and get a grip!

I find this thread quite poignant

OP, I applaud your honesty and let face it, not everyone is a beauty. and we live in a beauty centric world

But I do also agree that niceness and kindness will overcome ALOT, and I am not saying that to be kind

I agree with what tangled sais

I am also pleased to read that you make the best of yourself

My main issue is to not pass on this feeling of insecirity to your daughter

but honest thread, thanks . and I dont think YABU to sometimes feel like this

OP, you sound like a lovely person. And I bet your kids and your DH are so happy and thankful that you are in their lives.

Looks are pita, I should know, I have a massive nose...so YANBU.

But do get a grip...I will too.

Hi all. I had a good day today, despite getting caught in the wind and rain!

I'm sloooooooooowly tappity-tapping this out on my iPhone and don't have the patience for a long reply I'm afraid but thank you all so much for all your kind words and advice. It means a lot x

It was a good thread. Made me think. Thank you for starting it OP. No sign of a bun fight either, which was lovely!