AIBU to be downright p*ssed off at unhealthy parents?

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I sent my six year old DD off to school this morning with a packed lunch filled with two ham sandwiches, an apple, yoghurtised fruit pieces and a bottle of orange juice. She came home with the remnants of the apple, an empty packet of space invaders and the wrapper of a chocolate bar. I've spoken to DD about and she says another friend 'gave it to her'. I'm partly annoyed at the dinner ladies for not stopping kids from swapping food at lunch (for allergy reasons, if anything) but also at this kid's parents; if I send my child into school with a healthy lunch, I do not expect her to come home with an unhealthy one. It's not the first time this has happened, I've been through the same thing with my older children and although I've ranted to a couple of people about it, I've come to mumsnet to vent my anger a little further. AIBU or just missing something?

Thanks Fred and sky, I appreciate your advice. He has a snack,mil and biscuit/fruit when he gets home and his mainmeal at 5pm. He's not overweight at all, tallish and thinish.

Sky, the problem would be resolved if the parents let their kids eat whatever they wanted to feed their kids at home and just stuck to the school rules. Since the school my DD goes to doesn't have a rule I'm kind of a bit miffed tbh.
Tufty, that's a goof lunch though! Apple crumble/biscuit cake/fruit salad/wraps are food! Space invaders are not.

*good lunch

YABU I'm sure someone else said, I don't actually think the lunch you packed is especially healthy.

YANBU, but wait til they get older and learn to chuck all the evidence in the bin,lol

Seriously, would try and find out why DC wanted to swap - there was a lot of fruit in that particular lunch (not having a go about sugar - It was 'natural' not from sweets etc), might myself have put a salad instead of say the dried fruit and perhaps a few crisps or perhaps plain popcorn. When DD was at primary she didn't have whole packet of crisps, sometimes a handfull (say once a week) and no she rarely had a choc bar but sometimes one or two Choc fingers when she wad older.

If they feel like they are loosing out they will swap - but look at it this way, someone elses child thought what you had packed was just what they wanted.:)

Can't expect school to stop this and once they are in high school there will be even less you can do about it - find out why and come to a compromise (otherwise known as a bribe,lol)

I was waiting for the first message slagging off OP's packed lunch. It's just SO MN. Glad it only took a handful of posts!
OP - YANBU in my view. Perhaps the dinner ladies try but it must be difficult policing every child. Don't blame you for feeling grumpy. I would say you need to talk to your daughter - getting her to understand the reasons why she has what she has and must stick to it is the only way you will win this battle in my view.

What child is agreeing to swap fruit for their chocolate and crisps??? I would talk to your daughter, when I was at primary school (aged about 7 IIRC) there was a kid in my class who got to be known for nicking things from the younger kids at break/lunchtime.

Maybe the trick is to send your DC in with a pack-lunch box of chocolatey treats and then you will find that she swaps this for a healthy museli bar/carrott stick!