Men wearing hats to a wedding?

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Have name changed for this.

We're going to a wedding in a couple of weeks, the bride has just sent out a reminder email saying things like don't forget to book taxis, accommodation etc.

The email also says: 'p.s. don't forget those hats - that's both genders please!'

Since when do men wear hats to a wedding? If the dress code was morning dress I could understand it, but there has been no mention of this.

AIBU to think this is weird? Or am I missing something?

Yes, most odd if not morning dress IMHO.

She mustnt be aware of the morning dress "rules" bless her....maybe she thinks all the men wll just wear that gear....or will don top hats with their MossBross suits!
I would send her an email with selection of hats such as this one and ask if that kind will do.

Oooh, nice hat Mary!

She's wierd and bridezillaish. Why do you need to be reminded to go to her wedding?

Did she think you would just forget the invitation, RSVP, and expect to be able to teleport to the venue and sleep on a cloud?

Oh thanks for this, just imagining the conversations about what she means, would be wonderful if everyone turned up in fishing hats, deerstalkers, beanies, hankies tied at the corners etc, just to serve her right for being a controlling nightmare! Updates please!

love your idea gethelp lmao. she obviously wants men in morning dress but thats not normally the case when the guys are not in the wedding party. i would be tempted to turn up in a black suit trilby and gun like a 1940's gangster. or the more sensible smart with no hat. she is unlikely to kick off infront of all her guests on the wedding day.

Time for a Stetson.....

Oh PMSL @ gethelp!! :o

I totally agree, what a twat she sounds.

I would wear a baseball cap with fake boobs on, or something.

I would stick a fascinator on my dh.

A very timely thread! SIL is getting married at the weekend and DH told me recently that all of the women are to wear hats or fascinators (but that I shouldn't wear the hat I wore to a wedding last year as it looked like I was attending a funeral (SIL's words)).

This really feels like red rag to a bull. Do I a) wear the black hat (it was mesh and hardly covered in lillies!) or b) not wear a fecking hat or fascinator?

...or one of these tophat so you can make that horrid noise that we tell our kids off for when it's empty.

I don't think there is anything wrong with men wearing hats to a wedding but only if they want to. Maybe it's just me but I would never tell other people what to wear to my wedding!

Some fabulous inspiration here.

I think this one could be very fetching

Do you think there's some sort of hat theme to the wedding, which she's forgotten to tell anyone about? Or she simply has no idea about dress-codes at weddings?

Love all the links - I'd love to see the big group wedding photo with all the men wearing one of those

Men would have to take off their hats when they enter the church, anyway.

Maybe it's a typo and she wanted to remind everybody to bring their bats for the traditional reception fight?
Email/text/phone her to clarify and then come back and update, have to know what on earth she is on about!

urgh - Bridezilla!

I would rather die than wear a hat to a wedding if I had been "ordered" to but then I'm a contrary cow

as for DP? Well...

Bats, roadkill? What, like one of these?

Maybe it's a typo and she wanted to remind everybody to bring their bats for the traditional reception fight?

Rats. She wanted everyone to wear their rats. Or cats.

Oh I do want to go, we could all turn up with our dh's in all of these hats, with bats, outside the church/venue to really give her a day to remember! Oh and we're all vegan wheat intolerant/kosher, is it too late to let her know?

This seems mad. Men should never wear a hat to a wedding.

All the weddings I've attended (dozens) were morning suits and our wedding was morning suits only. However nobody wears a hat as it is quite wrong for a church.

Top hats should only be worn outdoors ie Royal Ascot, Derby Day etc. I know some people carry them but really looks daft in my opinion.

I guess you could wear some sort of hat with a lounge suit (trilby in cold weather?) but this is very strange and I've never seen it before.

As for ladies I've never been to a wedding where the majority didn't wear hats/fascinators - surely this is the norm or am I old fashioned?

I agree, I think it's quite normal for ladies to wear hats to a wedding (although not obligatory).

It's the reference to 'both genders' that has me confused.

Zombie wonders if the next text will remind the men not to forget their rolled umbrellas...