AIBU to wonder why this guy is doing this to me

[CreamolaFoamless]

Three times now he has more or less begged me to come and see him then dissappears and can't be gotten hold off when I'm ment to being seeing him

I know what he is doing is wrong but I'm still a bit wtf you playing at ?

I'm 43 , its it unreasonable to ask him what's he's up to and say 'I think you are taking the piss , give me an explaination ' because I deserve one

Or should I just let it go and slide of quitely into the sunset

Walk away.

I'd say he's doing it because he enjoys it, it makes him feel powerful having some poor woman in tow who he can pick up and put down exactly as he pleases. I'd also be suprised if you're the only one he's got on the go right now.

Please tell me that text said not to contact you again.

lol yeah RomeosMother that's me .....are you suggesting I'm too soft on people on because my partner walked out one New Year's eve and hung himself from tree and I am now sacred just in case I upset anyone else too ....they might kill themselves too

and I am too soft for that very reason

Creamola

you were NOT responsible for that, not then, not now, not ever

I am very aware of how it makes me interact with people close to me now though

The daft guy say's stupid words like 'I can't live without you , you mean everything to me ' ............even though he has no real interest in me , that send's me into panic just in case it's true and I upset him and he kills himself ...which is so daft and stupid on my part I know

CreamolaFoamless have you ever had any therapy over what happened

this feeling naturally will have an impact on all relationships unless you come to terms with what happened and deal with it, not easy that is a terrible situation but you owe it to yourself to move on from feeling this way

Okay, it's a symptom. That's a starting point.

Tell him to fuck off and shove his present up his arse, you deserve better than this, especially after what you have been through.

i di have therpy , it was group therapy I went in only worrying about my situation and came out carrying another 7 members grief

I kind of have told him to fuck off and shove his preent up his arse .

And he has gone quiet so I'm worrying if I upset him ..

I never used to be like this

Why is it ok for him to upset you, but now your worrying about upsetting him? Seriously, forget him, he's not worth it.

i never used to be like this
Don't be so hard on yourself, but this man is not going to help you feel better, as he is messing you around and trying to win you back with presents. If you read your OP as someone else, what advice would you give?

I know

In a way I just want him to feel bad for 5 mins about how he has treated me

Is he an amorous bolter??
Really, his behaviour might be unfathomable to you but its a waste of time trying to get him to see that. Really, someone either is like that, or they aren't.
See also loser, narcissist.
He's got you tied in knots. You give him what for - justifiably - for messing you about, then worry you've upset him, when you've done nothing wrong? He wont feel bad. He wont be feeling anything, except maybe sorry for himself.
Really, dont waste your time trying to figure him out. He will always leave you feeling worse.

You're not in Manchester by any chance are you? I think I know him!

I put up with this shit on and off for a few months before it fizzled out to less than the nothing that it had been. A couple of years later he re-appeared, suggesting we get together 'sometime'. I laughed out loud when I got the email and replied 'you must be joking!'. He was quite miffed, too.

7 yrs on he's still single, probably still standing women up. I thought he was 'sweet', mow I think he's a bit of a loser.

Get rid, find a new object who is more deserving of your time and affection.

he's a good bit younger than me . i broke it off a year back because he said he'd like to get married and have children......i don't want any more children (I think)

He didnt reply to my first text but he did to the second one that just said 'dickhead'

he wants to know if i really think he's a dickead lol

I hope you have left him wondering!

Honestly, walk away. And ask your GP to refer you to better counselling. Sorry for what you have been through

Ok, you told him to f off, now you need to block him from texting/phoning/e-mailing/facebooking you. And any other ways I may have left off.

He is just causing you grief, move on...there are tons of others out there, and I personally would prefer to not date anyone rather than have someone who gives me grief.