to dread dinner at mil

[Cazm2]

Hi all some of you may have seen my other threads.37 weeks preggers at moment due for Sunday dinner at mil but hate it as place not clean and stinks!! Fil passed away 7 half years ago mil has very active social life is always out,is retired also but keeps very busy. Sil lives at home still 27. The house has generally got into a state she has dog and 2 cats but its just not clean and generally very untidy. Last time we ate I had cat hair on my plate!! She now has a litter tray as 1 cat can't be arsed to go out. The house just stinks of animal and I think animal piss. She says she would rather be out than in doing housework! Dh is aware of some of situation and I think tries to say something. I can't say to much to him as feel its quite personal. I dread going there and taking baby once here! Any suggestions??

Sounds like your dh needs to get better at saying no to his mum. You know this will only get a thousand times worse when minicaz arrives don't you? Time for a nice long chat about you and little one coming first now as the primary family unit for your dh. Good luck .............

We do argue but its mainly about mil he does realise baby comes first its just putting it in practice! She also has a way of guilt tripping him too! It's hard

Um, it'll get worse when the baby's here.

Thing is I think I might find it easier to say no when baby is here! Hopefully so will Dh

You both need to be firm from the start and don't be pushed into anything you don't want. I agree that your DH needs to show you and the baby are his main priority.

It's hard for me to broach subject as we always end up arguing. I think he is to soft he feels guilt if there are any disagreements with his m and will apologise even when I have told him he's not in the wrong. It ends up me just banging my head against a brick wall I have been with him 15 years so know family well. But I also think mil is wrong for leaning on him so much