To Consider Chucking DH Off the Computer

[Hecubasdaughter]

He is playing games. I made dinner one handed because dd2 was crying and he was too busy playing to pick her up. I really need to get on with job applications because we desperately need one of us to find a job.

Of course you should tell him to get off it, children and work come before games. Is he a teenager? He needs to help you, not sit and play games whilst you care for his child.

Errr no you are not being unreasonable!!!!! Where do these men get off thing computer games or tv is more important then spending quality time with children these are moments that can never be replayed unlike computer games or tv!!! Tell him to man up!!!!!

I think you should ask him to stop playing games for the moment. He should then blush with embarassment at leaving you to deal with child and dinner, abandon the gaming, and make you a cup of tea while you crack on with your applications!

Failing that, if he's on world of warcraft, let me know which server and I'll go tell him to log off!

You're obviously not scary enough! If I were dumb enough to think one second of the day were my own I would bear the scars of a verbal and physical bashing. Give him the option - look after DD or make tea.

I'd asked him to get me a drink over an hour ago while I was feeding dd.

Oh I'm going to throttle him. He just told me to do my applications on my phone. FFS it can cope with the MN mobile site but it's hardly condusive to attaching my CV to emails.

Give him the baby to hold, just place her/him on his lap. Failing that, turn the sockets off at the mains.

Turn the computer off at mains.

Find a blown fuse and put it in the plug. When he gets home it won't work.

He will swap the fuse and throw it in the bin (make sure you take the blown fuse out of the bin and do the same the next day until you run out of new fuses!)

Did you get your benefits/HB sorted out?

Another one saying switch off the mains and hand him the baby. Then claim computer for mumsnet use

that people put up with being treated like this. I've been known to go into a mild rage when DP puts my boiled egg the wrong way up in its cup. If he tried busting this kind of shiz I'd be apoplectic. Well he wouldn't, I wouldn't be with him in the first place if he was that sort of person.

You need to get nuclear on his ass, OP.

Yes and no porto turned down for CTC and lost appeal. We did get the back dated contribution based JSA.

Upside down eggs! -Poor Vivi's dp!
Op, kick him off the computer and hand him the baby. he seriously needs to reconsider his priorities

I got my iPad the Christmas before last because I was sick of being last in line for the computer. But this may not be a solution if both of you are unemployed.

Perhaps you could give him a deadline, then say you will need it after that. If that doesn't work, wait until you are less tense, and then speak to him about it. If both of you are unemployed, it's not fair for you to have to do all the housework and child are while he plays.

Seriously, Tia, eight years. You think he'd have learned by now I like them pointy side up. He does it to spite me now I think, the trickster.

You're right buying an ipad wouldn't be an option. Dd has fallen asleep for now so I'm trying to get the dinner dishes washed and some other housework done. We had a massive fight yesterday after I exploded at him when he accused me of being inefficient with housework.

Sounds like you're both just going a bit stir crazy . Any chance for getting out for a bit of a walk and head clearing together tomorrow?

I'd have plonked the baby on his knee when I went into the kitchen to make dinner. But then I'm a bit nasty.

Dangerous stuff cooking with a baby in your arms.

I know I burnt myself because I was working side on to the hob to protect her. He had had her but put her down and she screamed more. She was affecting his concentration apparently.

24 hours in a day. Why do you need to do job applications at tea time?

Hecubasdaughter, I am guessing that there is a massive backstory here.

Are you able to leave the children with him and head off to the library and do your applications there? Yes, I know you shouldn't have to, but I am wondering if that is a simpler solution in the short term.

What happens when you do get a job? What would be the childcare arrangements?

Inefficient with housework? He said that but sits playing games while you sort out the house, baby and job hunt? Not on.

(Still laughing at vivi's eggs, but I do agree- round end up is WRONG! [Grin] )

I agree about the eggs.

Wasn't trying to do applications at teatime. I was comforting dd while cooking dinner then after dinner he kept playing although I needed to do applications.

He's going to have to do the childcare unless he finds a job too. He will do the basics if I'm not there.

The basics isn't really good enough, is it?

Are you committed to staying in this relationship? Because it doesn't seem to be working out for you and the children.