To feel like shit?

[CarpeJugulum]

A thread about a thread.

I started a thread, and no one replied.
I started another thread, and only one person replied.

I don't have many RL mum friends, I have no family close by.

I have NO clue what I'm doing as a mum.

I'm in tears coz no one responds to my threads, and I feel like shit.

AIBU to just give up on beng a mum and being a nice person and just sit in the corner and not worry about anything?

Where did you start your threads?

Hiya Carpe

Waves and says "don't cry"

I thought I'd reply and double your numbers

How old is/are your DC(s)?

it's alright - no one really answers my threads either!! (but mine are really boring...)

Hey, don't be silly. This is just a forum - please don't take it personally if you don't start a thread which goes on to run over several pages. It isn't a test of your popularity, and it doesn't mean that nobody cares. This is a community and I am sure that fellow mumsnetters will offer help and advice if they feel qualified to. Perhaps nobody felt capable to answer your query (I don't know what you asked) or perhaps you could post it in a more suitable section.

What is bothering you?

Carpe I'm really sorry you had no replies on your last thread. I didn't see it myself - that could be all that happened. If you're feeling overwhelmed feel free to talk to me. I'm no expert but I'll help if I can.

Hope you feel better soon.

Well, I didin't see your threads but I like your name.

Don't worry OP, I started a thread today and no one answered me either But then again it was a bit boring wasn't a very controversial one.

link your other thread here then im sure we can all go help out on there if needed?
sorry youre feeling crap

I never start threads as I'm scared no one will answer them. And I hardly ever post on other peoples as I'm scared I will kill the thread with my crap advice, but if you link to your other threads then I will post some crap advice so it looks like me who has killed the thread like I have tried to with this one

I?m sure most of us feel at times like we have no idea what we are doing being a Mum, why children don?t come with manuals I?ll never know

Where's your thread and I will answer it?!

I read your thread mojito, if that helps. I almost replied. but then I didn't

I agree, the number of threads I start and then delete before posting because I worry no one will answer!

Perhaps your answer was so perfect, Custard, that no one could top it!

laughing at Folkgirl, bit boring though wasn't it so don't blame you. Not saying your's was OP.

Custard, if it's any consolation I start boring threads every now and again and mostly give crap advice

Hello Carpe! I haven't seen your threads either. Some just "take off" for no real reason, some don't. Its not personal. I'm sure you're being a great mum. How many D9s do you have?

Generally v few people reply to mine. The most popular seem to be if someone (not necessarily the OP) is being obnoxious and/or a twat.

So I guess you are neither of those which isva good thing. Tis disheartening though when no one responds, x.

No, no not boring (YANBU btw)

I started a really boring thread about reheating rice a few weeks ago and, although I really appreciated the responses, I was surprised at the number of people who replied! I was even polite and updated - I'm sure they were all thrilled!

Posting just because you sound so down. Where's your other thread, so we can all pile over & offer terrible advice!

Also when giving crap advice one of the big guns very wise MNers comes along and I just pale into insignificance shrivel back into the corner

My favourite time is when I've had a few sherberts, tend to get all wordy and controversial then Trick is not to go back to any of the threads after though.

Thank you all for replying. My main worry thread is here although thankfully some lovely people have answered me now.

I finally gave up and took DS for a walk round the estate - très boring but it got us both out for fresh air and away from the tv.

I just feel so grim especially (and I know this is a no no!) when I look at how some of the other mums I know from my post natal group are doing. Or appear to be doing. They're all back to work (apart from one who is pregnant again) and their DC's are flourishing and have "art work" on the fridge and seem to play independently. My DS just isn't and I'm starting to wonder about going back to work in the office (I currently WAH) even though it would mean a drop in income for the family (I earn less than it would cost to put DS in nursery/childminder) just to make him less dependent - but we really need all our money as it is.

I keep saying "this too shall pass" - but it isn't passing IYSWIM - or if it does, something else happens. For example, we were just getting sleep training working - we had almost a week of 8-6 give or take and now the second set of molars are coming in and he's inconsolable and waking 3-4 times a night unless we co-sleep, which is more of sleep for him and light doze for me. DH does cover a few nights, but as he's working full time, it's mainly me who does nights.

I just want my life back. Or at least a different life than I have now. I love DS dearly, but it's relentless - no peace during the day (I work when he naps) then no peace at night as he's up.

Poor thing, you are right this too shall pass. What about trying a CM for just a few hours 1 day a week?, x.

I have replied on your other thread :)

In a few years, you will be inconsolable because he rushed off into nursery without a backward glance as you stood there waiting for you goodbye hug and kiss. And wondering where your clingy baby went.
It is tough when they're like this, but hang on in there because it is really just a phase.
Put an idea on your other thread too.

Hi Carpe

If it's any consolation I usually kill threads. I'll post something that I think is witty, engaging and relevant only to watch the thread wither and die.

Hope it doesn't happen to this one, but apologies in advance if it does.

Bye