to buy dd (age 6) shalwar kameez?

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Even though she is blatantly white and European. Lots of her friends come from Asian families and she keeps asking for them to wear to parties because she thinks they're so pretty.

A couple of people have suggested she'd just just look ridiculous and it would look like I was just trying to be politically correct. AIBU to just ignore them and indulge her (with some cheap but pretty ones?)

YANBU at all. Am sure your daughter will look just adorable. Please ignore the people who say you will look like you are 'trying to be PC'. First off, being PC is not a bad thing. Secondly, your daughter just wants to dress like her friends, in beautiful clothing. Nothing wrong with that.

Also, I think it is fantastic that your DD can speak basic Urdu. When I was in primary school, diversity of culture meant Irish, and er, Irish from somewhere else in Ireland. Your DD sounds wonderfully cultured.

FWIW, I would live in shalwar kameez and saris, given half a chance. I do own some, but would wear them every day if I could. So comfy and pretty. When I was a teenager, I lived in cheongsam. So much nicer than jeans and t-shirts .

That website is gorgeous. There are loads of beautiful things there that I would wear myself. The Kurtis are ideal with leggings or jeans.
To for it and buy your dd something nice.

Go for it

My wedding I wore an Asian suit for the meal it was lovely and so cool after the bloody dress lol

I'm so white I look like a vampire - I've worn saris a couple of times, once to an indian wedding and anoter to a school open day - most of the staff and pupils were asian, they thought it was 'cool' - quote froma 7 year old.

Nothing wrong with it, the ones who said that are narrow minded and very boring. My ds2's gf sometimes wears one, or a sari, when they are going out somewhere special, she looks beautiful, and she is Caucasian.

It's like dressing up
Nothing wrong

Not at all, I did the very same for my daughter. Infact she wore it to an Indian wedding and was photographed more than the bride!

I think she has excellent taste, the shalwar kameez are so, so pretty.

DS had several Chinese style outfits (I'm not sure if there is a correct word for them) that he loved. He took his last one to school for Chinese New Year in reception and all the children loved wearing it

No YANBU if to your particular taste (and you feel you must to impose it on your DD).

Personally I think some of the colours are rather crude and garish and there is little in the way of cut or style but each to their own I suppose.

She will be fine, my DM brought it for my friends daughter for eid, she looked cute. No one battered an eye lid, and no said anything. Infact the asian kids were more shocked where she got such a pretty one from.

People who have suggested it may cause offence are utterly ridiculous. If she likes it go for it. if ever I have dressed up in clothes from another culture I've had nothing but compliments.

Pendeen you have clearly never seen well made or styled Asian clothes, what an ignorant post!

Pendeen, the OP isn't imposing her crude & garish taste on her DD.

Her DD has asked to wear pretty shalwar kameez like her friends and she will look lovely.

It's nice for her to want to be like her friends. In the summer, why don't you have a party in the garden for her and invite her friends to come in shorts and T shirts?

When I was about three I used to pester my mum to make me a sari out of an old curtain. I can't see the harm.

YANBU. She'll not look ridiculous at all. I thought some of the blonde haired little girls modelling shalwar kameez in the Rupali catalogue looked stunning.

Pendeen's probably seen the ugly ones (SKs I mean).

OP If you and your daughter like them, wear them - my only suggestion is that you put elastic instead of drawstring waist to avoid any slippage or coming undone! Dupattas/Chunnis can be safety pinned to stop them from slipping/getting lost.

Also can get saris that are 'ready made' ie the pleats are stitched in place so easy to put on and stay up! Though actually not difficult to learn how to wear a sari properly. Lots of tutorials and tips on youtube!

Saris are just long pieces of pretty fabric - easy to make your own if you want to. Blouses or tops - well these days anything goes so mix/match/contrast whatever you want to wear will go - if you google you will see some amazing outfits! Lots of fusion wear around these days.

Good thing about saris is that one size fits all! Just wrap and pleat to suit your size! Blouses/tops have to be made to fit though but you can wear stretch tops if you want. I share saris with my sisters - we just get blouses made in our own size.

Worn by loads of differents skin tones! Liz Hurley, Jemima Khan etc have all worn saris, SKs etc. SKs are just top and trousers - fashions come and go. Was fashionable to wear trousers and tunics but now is long A line dresses with narrow trousers. Don't see why anyone can be offended because you want to wear SK.

Lots of nice stuff on ebay too if you don't have shops close by.

And Pendeen - if you look a bit more, you will find plenty of stunning colours and excellently made outfits as well as the cheaper garish ones. Just depends where you look and your budget.

I think I'm right in saying that a sari is considered a woman's garment - you won't see a child in one until into the teens I think. But lenghas (skirt/top/chunni) are lovely for children too.

YANBU. I have one which I wear to Adian friends' weddings- it is so comfortable. Occasionally I wear the top with jeans and people always comment and ask where it's from (£5 at Tooting market )

Adian? Asian!

They are some of the most comfortable outfits I think I've ever worn. Could she go on a shopping trip with one of her friends and they buy one together? She'll look lovely.

pengymum

Thanks for the information but not really to my taste.

I love them!

There is no other garment which suits all figure types and which is simultaneously so practical and so elegant. I don't know why we don't all wear them

YANBU

I got her 2 sets. I took her and let her choose herself and it is true one is a garish (bright pink) but oddly enough looks lovely with her blond hair. the other is a beautiful peacock blue. she spent ages trying on different sets and the man running the shop was really helpful and tolerant and when we paid said how lovely it was to see her so excited and pleased. I certainly didn't impose my taste she chose from about 20 set in her size which were all different designs and colours.

Added bonus the shop was getting rid of stock before relocating so they were £10 a set instead of £20. She wore them to a party at the weekend and IMHO looked absolutely stunning and loads of people told me how pretty she looked