After more than 3 years of battling infertility, I am now delighted to be pregnant with my first child.
I don't think the nightmares of what we dealt with will ever really leave us, but it just makes us appreciate what we have even more, so that's okay.
There's just one thing I can't seem to move on from, and I don't know why...
Recently, I had the last in a series of operations aimed at saving my fertility and relieving the pain that I was in. This was the biggy - really high risk in terms of possible complications and I could have lost both ovaries. As you can imagine, this was a really difficult time for us, and very emotional, so to this day I still can't understand why my SIL chose to announce her pregnancy the day before I went into hospital. It felt so malicious and like she was trying to rub it in our faces.
If I think logically, I know she wouldn't have done it on purpose. She probably just didn't realise that was the day, so I'm sure I'm being unreasonable, but I feel she should have been more sensitive. If she didn't know about our op, she certainly knew we were dealing with infertility and if she'd only asked a parent perhaps, she would have known that we needed a couple of days to get through that before her announcement. Then we could have celebrated with her - rather than feeling punched in the stomach!
I want to move on, because I've always loved my SIL and always tried really hard to be closer to her. But right now, I just feel uncomfortable around her, and quite sad really.