to want a baby?

[hattieboo2012]

My partner and I have been together for 8 months and live together. We have little niggles with each other, but doesn't everyone? 99% of the time we get on great and are always saying to each other how great it is that we get on so well...but it has only been 8 months! Still in our honeymoon period perhaps?

Well, the thing is, I see my partner with friends kids and he's sooo brilliant with them. Add to that he's caring, considerate, generous, funny, reliable, and i'm so bloody broody! I really want a child with him!

We have talked about the future (children and marriage)...he initiated the conversation on the many talks we've had about it, and we both agreed that in the future marriage and children are what we want from the relationship. Is there anything I can do to hold out my maternal feelings for just a bit longer? We have no children yet btw.

Oh and having our son brought us together more so than I thought possible x

Reading this I'm amazed anyone ever has any children at all, certainly more than one. And the childless often asked "Why not? Oh but you must" when they say they don't have any.

Anyway, back to the topic...

OP I know how you feel. I have been with my DP 14 months and I want a baby so much, I think about it constantly. Its made so much worse by the fact he has a 3yr old DD and we spend every weekend as a family unit and we work really well as that family unit. We have so much fun, we all work together brilliantly. But I know deep down that we haven't been together long enough and that although we spend half the week as a family (well 3 days one week and 4 days the next) there is a difference between half the week with the house in a whirl wind and EVERYDAY. I would say if its what you really want and you are both in the same place then it could work but if you aren't then its going to be very hard. I am willing to wait because I want it to be good, I want us to be united, but I'm not going to wait years and years if I'm honest. Good luck, its very hard to ignore those feelings

Don't rush things! Seriously, you can never get that carefree time back once you have a baby. YANBU per se, but why the hurry? If you're mid-late 30s or older then I can understand, but if you're not then enjoy your relationship. I was with my DH for 5 years before we had DS1 and the firm, loving foundation we built and all the wonderful memories we made have sustained us through the difficult times. Without that - if we'd rushed straight into having a baby - I'm not sure we'd have made it. Your hormones are speaking - so talk some sense into them and enjoy this wonderful time of your life.