AIBU -I am worried I am being a bitch, basically, and overly coloured by my history (see below).....
We had a big lunch yesterday with family and friends to celebrate/mark a couple of events.
We are now all in our early thirties and mostly have kids or are trying etc. All the women (and the men) are well educated, clever and pretty issue free.
The pub where we went pretty much just does really good, proper wood fired oven pizzas. We had invited everyone for (and put a tab behind the bar) for lunch and it was arranged a month or so ago.
Basically, I just wondered if I am being unreasonable in frankly, being unbearably annoyed by pretty much all my friends (I love them, but in this respect... arrgh!).
Short story is: I was the only female who actually ate a pizza. Two others shared a side salad and the rest just had diet coke. We were there from 12.30 until 5pm. The conversation amongt the girls was, literally 99.9% about "do you think I have lost weight" or (from someone who is getting married) "I love my dress but it makes me look soooo skinny" and honestly, 4 hours worth of talking about what people eat (sooooo much - sooo bloated) and what people weigh. Also coupled with "oh god, can you eat all that, I could never eat that... wow! you won't need any dinner" (err, yes, I can indeed eat a pizza for one for lunch 
and no, I really don't worry that it is going to make me fat and will have dinner as normal... 
) None of the girls have ever been bigger than a size 10/12 and are mostly now about size 8/10. Me too in fact, not that it is relevant!
Now I do understand what it is to be obsessed about weight and to be ill with it - I was in hospital for anorexia for a few months as a teenager and was in and out of outpatient programs for a couple of years then, as a teenager. I also obviously understand that if you are overweight, you need to eat less and diet to lose weight and be healthy. Fair enough. None of us/my friends have ever been overweight, all are slim.
Honestly, all I could think all day was: GROW UP! Yes, as a depressed teenager with not much else going on in your life, worrying about your weight to the extent you are ill is a problem and should be discussed. As an eating disorder should at any stage of your life I guess. Honestly, none of these women have an eating disorder. They just don't (thankfully!). I know them intimately and know what I am looking for. And none of them are, in fact, too thin - all are just slim. I kept thinking that there are so many massive things in the world that you could be spending time thinking about and worrying about (I started talking about Syria and the image of the toddler who died (I found it so moving)... no response, back to our weight....). Also, we have kids... this is SUCH a bad example to them. Urgh! BORING!!!!
I am being horrid aren't I. This is because of my past, isn't it..? I should just ignore and not worry about what others say and do, shouldn't I? Sigh - I know it, do tell me (its why I am writing!)
Seriously, AIBU?