To rehome this cat! Am fuming!

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That's it, I've had it with this cat!
She doesn't fit in, my old cat doesn't like her (keeps going for her)
She hardly comes out, hides either under my bed or in the kitchen
She shit on my bed when I went away for the night, depsite the fact I have TWO litter trays out with 2 different types of litter
Has bitten me and has swiped DS
Seems to be making DS's eye sore, it keeps swelling up and this has only been happening since we've had her
and the icing on the cake is I've just woken up to a smash and she's broken the butter dish my nan got me, which I really liked to find she has also PISSED ON MY FECKING BED, WITH ME SLEEPING IN IT!!!
Fucking fuming with her right now. I feel like kicking her out the house right now, and don't even care if she comes back or not.

We've had her a month and I swore I'd perservere with her to make sure her and my other cat got on, but really I feel angry and insulted by her actions, I just CBA with her any more.

Sorry. I see you've come back and posted more calmly.

Still, rehoming seems to be the best outcome.

I didn't exactly respond calmly myself One of my animals is dying atm and I am not feeling very rational on the subject of pets.

I agree that rehoming sounds like the best option as no one is happy .

Hope she finds a lovely home and that your old cat cheers up.

Rehoming doesn't always work out. I have taken back some of my foster dogs and cats from people who just couldn't cope with them only to find a home where the new owner found them the perfect pet. At the end of the day, a bad rehome doesn't benefit anyone. Let the cat go and don't beat yourself up too much, for all you know the cat my find a home where she feels much more settled. I have had over 50 foster cats and 43 foster dogs pass through my home over the last 8 years and I am not ashamed to say that there were I few I sighed a HUGE sigh of relief when they left. This is through no fault of their own, I had a beautiful retreiver who collected ticks for a hobby, a lovely saluki who seemed to spread a disproportionate amount of dirt and hair around and a GSD who was just plain naughty to start with. I still loved and cared for them but was very happy to send them to a new home

Poor cat indeed.

If she has had several homes, being with another cat in the house is probably making it worse.
She doesn't fit in, my old cat doesn't like her (keeps going for her)
So, your old cat has nothing to do with it?

If your new cat happens to be the kind of cat who doesn't like other cats then this isn't going to work. Do you know if he's lived harmoniously with another cat before?

Our cat hates other cats. We could never have another one here with him. Bad enough him scrapping with all the other local moggoes.

The previous owners had to get rid of her because they were moving into a house where they couldn't take pets (apparently, but I they seemed to be taking a dog?) I don't know anything else, they were supposed to send her papers (pedigree pursian) and vets book etc. over in the post but so far they haven't.

Lueji - I'm not saying that it's her fault that she doesn't seem to like it here, or that it's her fault there is conflict. I've been the first to say to people that it's the old cat that is acting territorialily, which took me by surprise as she has got on with other cats before.

The reason we got the new cat is that the old cats companion died last summer and she has been lonely since, she used to cuddle up with the other cat and they would preen each other, I thought another cat would be good for her.

I've been in your situation Fully (well, except the bed but I did get peed on - and so did everything else in my house). The cat isn't happy, you're not happy. It's simply not working out.

I managed to rehome my cat with my FIL. He already had a younger cat but they soon sorted themselves out. The younger cat was a hunter not a lapcat whereas mine was the reverse. In fact they got on so well stray cat turned up one day and they allowed it to stay!

So a happy ending for my cat. He was so content with FIL (and FIL with him). It was a hard decision to make but the best one for the cat.

Try to limit hiding places, and create some vantage points instead, so cats can sit on a comfy shelf and not feel cornered.
Don't let the cat in your room at night or whilst you're away, or in your DS's bedroom. Find a suitable door to keep cats either side of, and let them get to know their spaces, then gradually introduce them, maybe with feeding routines. This can alleviate stress.
Annoying, but I'd also move things like crockery or bric a brac until she's settled a bit, might just be trying to make vantage points.

Sorry this is stressing you out - do some research into cat behaviour and come up with a tactical plan to nip it in the bud.

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She sounds terribly distressed and anxious. Why did you get a second cat?? Unless they're bonded from birth it's rare for cats to do well with others - they are by nature solitary animals.

She needs time and patience from you, not rage and aggression. She isn't being naughty or trying to upset you. She's a cat, behaving like a cat, because she is in distress.

If you won't persevere with her gently and with care then yes, return her to the shelter so someone more appropriate can look after her. But please don't replace her with another cat - you aren't a suitable owner.

I suspect op and her cat have resolved the issue by now... Z-z-z-z-zombie

What did you do to introduce the two cats to each other? It usually takes 4-6 of gradual introductions before you know if cats will tolerate each other (there is a lot of advice online).

Have you spoken to your vet? Zylkene can be very helpful for stress since Feliway is not an option and Prozac has excellent results with inappropriate stress urine elimination.

Also try restricting her to a smaller area, and definitely close her out of your bedroom. It’s worth experimenting with different litter sands and trays.

Bloody hell Dr237 that’s a six year old ZOMBIE.

Since when have cats had the thought process to be able to be responsible for their actions

Oh ffs, when will I learn to look at the dates 🙄

Get rid. We had one a lot like that. The final straw was when he shat on my son's chest.

Oh bugger!

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27-Feb-12

Angry and insulted by an animal? You know the cat isn't human don't you? And that it doesn't have malicious intent? Pissed off and irritated maybe, but "insulted"? You shouldn't have animals.

It sounds anxious. You should rehome the cat, for its own sake.

Fuck. That's me taken in again

Zombie Cats

You could try some Zylkene capsules, they are not drugs, but contain something called cassein which comes from milk;or a plug in which is supposed to be calming
They calm and relax the cat,[both could take them until they get on together
Othwise rehome the poor thing,it might not be used to other cats,or been attacked by one in the past
If you have shouted at it it will be frightened of you

ZOMBIE

I think for your DS's eye problem alone you should have her rehomed. I am slightly allergic to some cats: we have a mainly outdoor cat who turned up and adopted us one day. He's out most nights and when he's in he usually sleeps. He likes to snuggle around me and I do sneeze a bit, but it's ok. My cousin had a short haired, very silky cat … and I used to be so allergic that my eyes would swell and I could hardly open them. Different cats bring out different allergies. Your DS's problem won't get better and he needs to come first.

Please regime the cat for its own safety and security. And perhaps consider why you seem to have so much hate for an animal that's quite clearly distressed and upset about something.