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AIBU To think my neighbour should mind his own beeswax & WWYD?

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GavisconJunkie · 26/02/2012 19:21

Knock at the door today, just as I was serving lunch. Neighbour from three doors up who wanted to talk to me about my activities earlier. Not what you might imagine! Apparently, he'd been offended to see me vacuuming (upstairs, windows shut, so he was going some) as it was a Sunday and he's a Christian.

He's a nice enough bloke a bit of a strange one from time to time, but thoughtful enough. He also fancies himself as a bit of a joker so, I laughed and thanked him for his concern whilst patting my tum, I'm 36 weeks pregnant and said that I had to keep moving or I'd become part of the sofa.

I really thought he might be having a surreptitious dig at DH (who wasn't there when I vacuumed as he'd taken DD(2) swimming and had expressly told me not to do it, but I'm nesting like mad at the minute) for not helping. But it appears that he was serious. I reminded him that I'm an athiest and that I didn't think it ought to bother him, but thanks for his concern etc.

Then at dinner time, another knock (timing is excellent) saying he'd really feel much better if we would come to church with them tonight as he was worried about my unborn baby, even though it's probably too late for DD (WTAF!).

At this point I told him the conversation was over and that we were about to eat. He walked away loudly proclaiming that it wasn't over and that he was going to keep fighting this one.

I'm tired, irritable and probably over reacting, but I'm dreading seeing him again now. I'm a SAHM and he's retired, so we bump into each other fairly often. Don't want to blank him completely, but don't want to engage anymore. Not really in a good place to have a full on theological debate.

AIBU to tell him to mind his own bloody business and leave it at that? Alternatively, WWYD in my position?

OP posts:
Mia4 · 26/02/2012 21:03

He is very unreasonable. I hate people who can't respect others and feel the need to push their belief on others where it's not wanted.

See if you can get or make a laminated sign 'please eave your religion and judgement at the door when you enter' ....'or fuck off' added to the end for the more blatant :)

Jamillalliamilli · 26/02/2012 21:03

Sounds like he may well be on autistic spectrum. I'd be tempted to consider writing him a social story centring on how unwanted attempts at conversion often result in turning people away from religion.
Or, just write him a letter/note to that effect and ask him to please recognise that at best his boundaries are in the wrong place regarding people?s personal choices and you would like him to desist, now.
It also sounds like his wife may have had to take her eye of the ball atm, and he?s acting up.

MayaAngelCool · 26/02/2012 23:53

Well if he knows lots of the neighbours well you can be sure that you're not the only one to feel the way you do about him. It's obviously unhelpful to go around canvassing opinions about their opinions on this guy, but I often find it reassuring to remind myself that I am not the only one.

Hope you get this ridiculous problem sorted, and soon!

Tiddlyompompom · 27/02/2012 01:09

What an incredibly offensive man.
I understand that you don't want to bother his wife, but honestly, she's prob the only person who can sort this out quietly. You're lovely to be so considerate of her, but yikes, if she has any awareness of his plonkerishneas, she'll be able to see that its not ok for her DH to accost a heavily pregnant woman on her doorstep like that.
He doesn't seem at all self aware, so you'd have to be pretty blunt for him to back off. Fuck off to the far side of fuck and fuck off again would probably do it... Grin

Jux · 27/02/2012 08:32

You could have an impromptu chat with one of the other neighbours, and vaguely mention what he's said. It's possible they've all had it from him, and you might get some tips on how to drive him off.

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