To take drinks to parties, not drink it then take it home

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I have been to a number of house parties where people take a bottle of wine, or a couple of cans of cheap beer, but then dont drink it and drink the expensive wine or beer or spirits that the host has provided.

Then at the end of the night, they take their wine/beer back home because it hasnt been drunk.

I think this is so rude. If you are taking drinks to a party surely you should be drinking that. It just amazes me how many people seem to do this. They might turn up with two cans/bottles of beer, but drink six or eight because someone else is paying for it

AIBU

seriously house parties ?

2 tins of beer

what is this

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If you're taking wine or bee to a party then its free for everyone to drink it.
If I have taken any of these and there's been some left I have left it there.

If you take a spirit bottle then this is yours to either drink alone or share with the host depending how close you are. If it doesn't get drunk then take I take it home.

Verr bad form indeed for any booze to be left over at all at a High Spotty. I always take plenty of the stuff to High Spotties I have the pleasure of attending, gaily drink the lot, then polish off whatever dregs are left hanging around. Then I might leave.

Not bad form to remove any leftover canapes/trifle etc however. I take a hefty evening bag to High Spotties I attend and stuff any food I think may go off by say, 5am, in it (handy tip, get your foil from Fortnums as it's industrial strength)

I haven't had to do any shopping for nearly five years now.

Don't trip over passed out guests on your way out and always close the manor door quietly.

hth

High Spotty?

I wish I had auto correct.

I love a good High Spotty too, the boden name for a party, ya?

People have done that at high spotties we ve given.

Vay rude. The drink is to be left !

I would never take my drink back but I might drink someone else's while there. A party should have a communal spirit though in the UK people do seem more territorial over what they have brought

Left over alcohol is one of the perks for the hosts.

Left over alcohol is one of the perks for the hosts.

Vair bad form to take it home.

posted twice - sorry!

So you go to a party, take some drink. Drink what you've brought and then go home again, taking the left overs with you? Bloody hell, you people know how to have a good time! If you go to a dinner party and tqke some flowers, do you take them home at the end of th evening as well?

I think it depends. A couple of my friends and I get together regularly at one person's house. We always bring what we want to drink (and we drink from what we have brought), and then take home any leftover of what we've brought (not that there usually is any - just occasionally ). But... that is what we all decided and agreed on when we started getting together. That way, everyone pays for their own and can keep to their own budget - some of us are more skint than others on certain weeks, so we can buy our booze accordingly. Plus then everyone has what they like.

I personally am not fussed about leaving the alcohol that's left at the friend's house, however, she would rather we take it home. So we do.

Bizarre - so at a house party you only drink the stuff you bought? Do you all have to label your drinks so everyone knows which bottle is theirs? Do you mark the bottle so you know if anyone has touched it?
I thought the whole point was you take a contribution to the party, drink what you want when you are there(regardless of who purchased it) and leave what you brought there.
YABU to think you should only drink what you brought, but YANBU to think taking anything home is rude.

The unspoken deal with my crowd is that you turn up with a decent amount.Put it on the table or fridge and get the party started.
At the end of the night there isn't usually much left but it would never occur to me to take stuff home/

Funny enough just before Christmas my 15year DS went to a house party and took a couple of tinnies. The mother was there and bought him home next day.
He commented on an (adult) guest turning up with a cheap brand of vodka, drinkng the hosts good stuff and then going home with his stuff unopened. DS said he thought that was bad and the mum had thought it was rude.

I told him he was boght up to behave better than that and I would have his guts for garters if he was ever that tight and mean.

Incredibly rude.

A friend did this about 10 years ago when she came round for dinner. We didn't drink her wine and she said 'Oh I might as well take it home then' and she did. I have never forgotten it because I could not believe anyone could be such a tight arse.

And when you take wine to a party or dinner, it is a gift for the host.

I think that it is extremely rude to take back anything at the end of a party. The only time I would consider it ok is if someone brings a specific drink that they have & I don't. For example,mum has sherry which she would take home but she would also take wine/champagne/flowers for the guest.
To take cheap drinks,have the nice stuff & take back the cheap stuff is grim behaviour,they wouldn't get a second invite.

What on earth is a high spotty?
I agree - drink only what you bring is studenty. You take a gift for the host, drink what you're ofered and of course leave the gift

My dp is a Scout leader and had to explain to a group of teenagers recently that when you are asked to bring a contribution to a campfire supper, you don't just bring stuff for yourself and cook and eat it. Looks like the parents are just as bad!

The only exception for me is when I'm having a family do and ask mum to bring her bottle of lime cordial for my grandpaa. Neither of us uses enough to get through a whole bottle before it goes off

The last few parties we've had, everyone seems to bring booze then drink soft drinks instead. It took us months to get through the party "remnants" of the last one, we ran out of space in the wine rack (and it wasn't a small wine rack)
We always buy a crate or two to "prime the pump", but last party 4 of the 5 glasses of wine were drunk by me before I started to worry I would get too "funny" for the other guests.
I need to get more drinky friends don't I?

I didn't realise people still had House Parties

Last one I went to I think I was drinking K cider. I snogged Tom Morris and was sick on his mum's bed

I hijack the DCs birthdays and invite my friends to the "after party" once all the terrors junior guests have left

Well, to be fair, when it's us friends getting together for drinks, it's not a "house party" it's just us drinking and chatting. And as we decided together that we bring what we drink, and take home what we have leftover, we're all happy with that. I imagine it's spurred on by the fact that none of us drink the same booze - so I suppose the "host" friend doesn't want her house cluttered up by booze she doesn't drink anyway. It's not a matter of "labelling" the booze. We all drink completely different drinks, so we all stick to what we've brought.

At an actual party, we bring booze (and food too if the host would like us to) and leave what's left at the host's house.

Am totally loving the High Spotty party for Bodenites

It is indeed very bad form to take back home drinks that you have brought to a party. I don't know anyone who would do this. Even back in the Dark Ages when I was a student, I don't remember anyone doing this but I that was probably because I was so pissed

My dp doesthis and I find it highly rude. if I buy drink to take and it isnt drunk I would just leave it there. Especially if I had been drinking their drink.