To take drinks to parties, not drink it then take it home

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I have been to a number of house parties where people take a bottle of wine, or a couple of cans of cheap beer, but then dont drink it and drink the expensive wine or beer or spirits that the host has provided.

Then at the end of the night, they take their wine/beer back home because it hasnt been drunk.

I think this is so rude. If you are taking drinks to a party surely you should be drinking that. It just amazes me how many people seem to do this. They might turn up with two cans/bottles of beer, but drink six or eight because someone else is paying for it

AIBU

The drinks you take to a party are a gift for the host, who provides the alcohol at the actual party, unless it's specifically a bring a bottle party. You don't keep the stuff you've brought separate, nor do you take any home. That said, who would bring a couple of tins of cheap beer?

Incredibly rude

I do think it's different if its an unspoken agreement among a group of frindds. Eg my mum and my aunt often go to each others houses for meals. They decided a long time ago to stop taking a botle of wine as a 'gift' and that the host would just provide all booze. Because they both eat at each others so often it became silly.

Very rude, but I love the concept of a High Spotty. Veh naice.

It's not a High Spotty worthy of the name if there's anything drinkable left at the end of the evening - let alone taken home.

But I'm genuinely amazed at people who do what the OP describes though. Unless they are 15 of course.

OP you are clearly going to the wrong parties. Can you get yourself invited to a Buckingham Palace garden party or a High Spotty instead?

How old are those who still go to house parties? I didn't know adults went. Do you have to wait till your parents are out for the night?

I only ever hosted one highspotty house party. My parents went to a wedding outside of London. Someone managed to throw themselves at our patio door and landed in a pile of glass! They were relatively unhurt and very lucky. My parents were not impressed and still haven't fully forgiven me especially as they returned to find me asleep on their bed with a boy. I was fully dressed I might add, just drunk. Happy memories!

We always take more than we will drink and never bring home leftovers, on one of the first parties we had at home someone brought a bottle of "blue nun" or "concorde and then drank everyone elses wine all evening, needless to say when they had a party we took it straight back, funnily enough the same bottle did circulated parties for about a year

YANBU. I normally take a bottle of white/red and a case of beer and leave what is not drank. I had friends turn up empty handed and proceed to drink us dry.

Make then stand outside with the social smokers who never have any and only want the "one"

'House party' - hmmm. Not been to one in a while. I assume you still have a bath full of ice to put cans in, puke in the herbaceous border and dance to Jump Around by House of Pain?

Anyway. I would only take the booze back home with me if it was something expensive like a bottle of spirits. Lager and stuff would be fine to leave behind.

We had people over for nye and ended up with various half finished bottles all over the kitchen so from that I gather it is still rude to take your leftovers home with you. Wish they would have though, the messy buggers!

I'm 25 so still young enough to be drunk in other people's kitchens without pitying glances... I think!

It's very rude and actually very sad to take your booze back with you.

Thank god I have never met someone as tight as that at parties.

When we had a party at New Year everyone turned up with booze. Some bottles of beer, wine etc. At the end of the night there was loads left over. I offered the drinks back as the guests were leaving but they all refused - I would have done the same - a gift for hosting the party.

My friend and dh came for drinks one night. She brought some lemonade to water her drinks down as she didn't want a heavy session. She sent her Dd round the next day to collect the full bottle as she didn't use it afterall.

Yep, booze is communal, as are snacks of crisps etc. Unless it is a HUGE party (over about 20 people, some of whom you don't know), then it is reasonable to hide your wine and just drink yours, but that is more as an anti spiking measure.

Depends on the party, the rules are either:

1 - take drink to share, drink anything that is around, anything left over stays with the host

2 - take drink for yourself, only drink what you took, take it home if not finished

But you can't mix the rules. Either you stick to your own drink and only drink that, or you agree that all drink (including the stuff you brought) is for everyone and not yours any more.

(I have never actually been to a #2 party, but it makes sense that they might exist)

I had a guest take back her cans if diet coke!
Ha!

I'm 25 so still young enough to be drunk in other people's kitchens without pitying glances... I think!

You're not.

I don't think there is an age limit on being drunk in kitchens, your own or other people's.

Anyone who does "pitying glances" won't be invited again.

We have a lot of parties and people get drunk - that's fine. I'm used to people spouting shit and do it myself when I'm pissed.
What fucks us off is when people puck over the carpet and then a taxi won't take them home because they are so far gone.

Then the friend of a friend who starts an argument with my friend who said something completly innocent. So pissed couldn't get her words out and wanted a fight I'd never met her before but she was close to another friend that was coming. That resulted in a swift goodbye!!

When my friends get so pissed they forget to go home - now that amuses me and they are always afterwards!

Do people still do clearing up parties - on sunday morning go to where party was, help clear up, and it all starts again

i used to get really ill on even a small amount of of chardonnay and have never touched red wine - so would always take the wine i liked. But of course this always got drunk first by everyone. I would take 6 bottles sometimes just hoping i would get 2 of them but still only end up with 2 glasses and then have to drink water or tea.

I would explain to people that i really couldn't even have a sip of red wine, and they would still offer my white round saying 'shall we finish off the white then we can start on the red' or when it was all gone 'don't worry plenty of red/libfraumilch/chardonnay left'. In the end i would actually walk round parties holding my bottle of wine like a stingy alcy .

I think it's rude to take what you aren't going to drink too so every turniing up with red wine and saying i'll drink white/beer. as a host you would have some stocked in but not enough for every fucker there! so off to the offy for you.

I've also had people not leave even when exH and i went to bed and then when i woke up the house is trashed and they have not only drank the party booze but gone into our posh whisky/champagne stock and drank it all. They were probably too pissed by then to even enjoy it!

Extraordinarily rude to take booze home with you though.

My aunt-in-law was seen to trade up at my DH's 40th - she brought a bottle of plonk then pocketed a nice bottle of champagne on her way out. And she went back to our house and had a lovely sit down and a cup of tea while we were clearing the hall. Definitely out of order.

high spotties..at last someone has been to my boden wearing village and found out the Lara, Grace, Fi, and Penny village puffa jacket cornwall loving mum's mafia.

Maybe I dont get on as I come to their high spotties with two tins of Tesco Blue stripe lager, drink "thaaaarrr" prosecco and eat all "thaaaaar" parma ham coming away two tins the richer.