to be sad (wedding related)

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Be gentle please I saw another thread like this where th OP got torn a new one to an unecessary point.
It seems that weddings seem to bring out the worst in everyone, I dunno wht this is surely the one time to put aside differences is a wedding or at least pay lipservice and whinge later like normal people.
I made someone chief bridesmaid purely out of proximity and one of my oldest mates has been put out of joint by it.Even though they live far away and have a very demanding career.
A relative of mine has been in a humpf since january because I wont uproot my big day over 200 miles away, for their convinience.

My friend is getting married, due to budget its a family only one in the day anyway. I'm getting married in a few years time and she will hopefully be an active part of mine, planning etc.
I feel quite sad I'll miss all of the pre planning little bits that girl mates do, the dress buying and then finally most of the big day itself.
She is one of my bridesmaids and I dunno feel like maybe I put too much significance on our friendship as awful as that sounds.
Plus i'm scared i'm irratating my OH mates with wedding talk , and I try not to talk to much but its like with anything like baby talk the more you think I won't mention it too much this time? you do. I'm struggling TTC atm an I find it a welcome distraction from that and my DS refuses to toilet train and I always hear this is the happiest time of my life and I just feel incredibly numb and empty. Sorry to whinge.

As someone who also

• turned a bit bridezilla when it was my turn (no harp arguments, but not far off )

-was secretly disappointed when my best friend had no bridesmaids when she had been mine

-is TTC

...I can actually fully understand your whinge

That said, everyone is right, your wedding is too far away to stress about the details yet (at least not in a way that involves other people, no harm in googling flowers in private!), and you might spoil the big day that way. It does sound like you are generally a bit sown at the moment and that these stresses are distractions not the root cause of your upset.

Most people find other people's wedding talk boring. Even if they are too polite to admit it. However, if you are only a month or so away from the wedding then it's reasonable to be fairly caught up in it. Unfortunately, if your wedding isn't happening until 2014, people will think you are bonkers to get obsessed about the finer detail right now.

It sounds as if you've got other things worrying you right now so don't let this long distant wedding add to any stress.

Thanks for all good advice I agree atm it should more of a lighthearted plan rather than full on bridezilla and theres other stuff going I agree its probs a comfort blamket of sorts.