to not have sex

[puds11]

AIBU to not have sex with DP as i feel really fat at the minute, and he told me the other day that i had got fat!
He keeps trying, but why would he if he thinks im fat?
Thinking he is gonna have to wait until im thin (could be a while)

Well, may e next time Mr. Twat will make the connection between making sneering, bullying comments to someone (cause) and them not wanting to have sex with him (effect).

What an ugly personality he has. Hmm, no diet cure for that alas.

Comparing you to other women is wrong and he shouldn't do that.

But mentioning your blossoming weight might just be him being concerned about your health.

Verity - he didn't express concern about her health (and no way is a size 10 woman unhealthy in any way), he said he didn't find her attractive. That is not supportive, that is cruel.

have you posted about this before, puds ?

it sounds very familiar

Gosh, I was imagining you 10 sizes bigger. I was almost about to defend him a bit by saying that if you were massively obese, he might have a point about not finding you so attractive any more. However, having read this, I think you both have a problem. His view of a healthy weight is wrong, and your view of yourself is distorted by his putting you down.

I have posted about this before AnyFucker unfortunatly

Can't you just use him for his body

So this Is a reoccurring issue? Did you address it last time?

He sounds like a prick tbh. The kind of man who expects a woman to have the same size 8 body after giving him Children then uses his 'hot' workmates as a stick should be a lonely old prick - but obviously you decided to stay last time he did this to you?

You made your bed......I can't really see how you can change a man who doesn't see that he needs to change in the first place.

The only person you can deal with is you, and your own self esteem and try to stop him ruinin what remains of it