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Original poster

to want ds to drop the new middle name he's chosen for himself?

43 replies

Heathen · 24/02/2012 23:56

Newbie alert... my first post! Ok, here goes. Ds has no middle names. ( dp and I were still arguing about it on the way to the registry office so he ended up with none. I know, I know...) Now he's chosen one, seemingly at random. He was absolutely serious about it and as far as he's concerned it's official. He's already told loads of people. All well and good, no? Trouble is, it's the name of the only person from my past that I really do loathe Angry. Ds doesn't know that person and I have never mentioned him so it is a coincidence. AIBU and making a mountain out of a molehill? It sets my teeth on edge every time I hear it! Confused I'll check back in the morning to see if anyone has any thoughts on this - have to get myself to bed - neeed sleeeep... Night y'all!

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AgentZigzag · 25/02/2012 00:01

I don't think you should discourage him because of a person you didn't like in your past, that has nothing to do with him.

I changed the way my name's spelt when I was 13, the school didn't like it but my parents were fine and preferred it in the end.

I'd ask how old he is but you've f-ed off to bed! Grin

AwkwardMary · 25/02/2012 00:03

How old is he? If he is under 16 tell him no. Don't explain...he cant go around naming himself! I am a free and easy parent but...just NO!

Grin
mojitomania · 25/02/2012 00:03

YABU its your problem OP Grin

NatashaBee · 25/02/2012 00:04

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mojitomania · 25/02/2012 00:04

Is it a full moon tonight? The freaks are out in force huh Grin

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Heathen · 25/02/2012 00:05

Ha ha I was f-ing off to bed till I got distracted by the other AIBU threads! He's 5. Yes, I know it's nothing to do with him. But it's a little unpleasant to hear that name every day (it's not an obvious or really common name) when the original bearer was such an out and out wanker....

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AgentZigzag · 25/02/2012 00:08

Awww he's only 5 and just playing at being someone else, I wouldn't worry about it too much.

Just let him go ahead without doing anything 'official' and it'll be forgotten by next week Smile

mojitomania · 25/02/2012 00:09

maybe there's a genetic connection op Grin

FoxyRoxy · 25/02/2012 00:09

He's 5 ffs this will probably last a week! When my ds was 5 he wanted to be known as Bart like Bart Simpson. Funnily enough he goes by the name he was given at birth now... Yabu for worrying about it.

AgentZigzag · 25/02/2012 00:10

Just what/and who are you insinuating at with your freak remark mojito?? Hmm

Grin
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Heathen · 25/02/2012 00:10

Oh cheers mojitomania. Feel really encouraged to carry on posting now...(definately going to bed now, not grown a thick enough skin yet Blush)

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MackerelOfFact · 25/02/2012 00:13

He will forget about it eventually, I'm sure we've all invented new identities for ourselves at some point. If he was 15 I'd say to let him keep the name and push aside your feelings, but at 5? Nah, he's unlikely to remain that attached to it, and if he does ten at least you'll be pretty familiar with it by the time he's old enough to change it!

Boomerwang · 25/02/2012 00:13

Just ignore mojito.

Mojito if you don't have anything constructive to say, just piss off.

I'd let him have his middle name, if you kick up a fuss about it then he just might use it as a weapon.

AgentZigzag · 25/02/2012 00:14

I thought you've made a good show of protecting yourself from a roasting Heathen.

I'm a Newbie - please don't hurt me

I'm going to bed - so I won't be here for you to hurt me

Grin
70isaLimitNotaTarget · 25/02/2012 00:15

My DC don't have middle names, I don't like them. (I have the most absurd middle name that I've wiped off all documents except my BC)

DC wanted a middle name, I told him he could pay to have his BC altered to make it legal
I know you can't change BC and you don't need any formal change to have a new name.

But DS is so tight with money, I knew it would stop him. He can't even remember the name he wanted now Grin

AgentZigzag · 25/02/2012 00:18

I thought mojito was just messing boomerwang?

It's a beautiful moon tonight anyway, can see the dark side really well

TrottersIndependantTrading · 25/02/2012 00:21

my ds also has no middle name, and at age 8 he decided his middle name should be 'mackerel' Hmm and then variations on that theme ie macklin. I just used to nod and say 'yes dear thats nice'. His latest middle name is Daniel and I wish we had thought of that when he was a baby!

WorraLiberty · 25/02/2012 00:22
mojitomania · 25/02/2012 00:23

Boomerang, this is AIBU not bloody relationships I can post what I want to so you piss off yourself!

The OP sounds a bit "off balance to me" hence the freak remark. Its only a name you know.

mojitomania · 25/02/2012 00:24

Yes, agent I was Grin

AgentZigzag · 25/02/2012 00:27

You're such an attention seeker worra and need to take a bit more time to avoid those skiddies

It was the Grin afterwards mojito, dead giveaway Wink

mojitomania · 25/02/2012 00:31

Now pack it up Agent, I've been told off for my "dark" humour Grin

Maryz · 25/02/2012 00:31

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mojitomania · 25/02/2012 00:38
Grin
ChocolateTeacup · 25/02/2012 00:47

He is 5, my DS 1 is also 5 and has been insisting that I call him Ben all week..