to want ds to drop the new middle name he's chosen for himself?

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Newbie alert... my first post! Ok, here goes. Ds has no middle names. ( dp and I were still arguing about it on the way to the registry office so he ended up with none. I know, I know...) Now he's chosen one, seemingly at random. He was absolutely serious about it and as far as he's concerned it's official. He's already told loads of people. All well and good, no? Trouble is, it's the name of the only person from my past that I really do loathe . Ds doesn't know that person and I have never mentioned him so it is a coincidence. AIBU and making a mountain out of a molehill? It sets my teeth on edge every time I hear it! I'll check back in the morning to see if anyone has any thoughts on this - have to get myself to bed - neeed sleeeep... Night y'all!

The connection to the name will soon enough disappear when you get used to it, and in a whiile you will associate the name with your son.

One of my sons is inadvertently named after an ex. So what, it is a great name.(Pure coincidence though)

You're a fucking freak mojito

Go downhill Mary? Is changing your name at five a subject posters rip each other eyes out over?

I'd like to think so Agent

Trotters, your DS clearly has exceptional taste.

Actually, I too lack a middle name and 'hilariously' decided my middle name would be 'Nothing' when I was about 8. Then I wanted a middle name that would provide me with 'amusing' initial.

I'd go with it, but suggest as many other middle names you can think of to him (perhaps the sillier the better if he's likely to find that funny). At this age I think they just like trying things out, so I doubt it will last.

Don't worry, it'll pass. My brother (growing up in the 80's) was a huge Michael Jackson fan, so when he was 5 and his usual Primary teacher was off on Maternity Leave, he told the supply teacher his name was RealFirstName Michael RealSurname but everyone called him Michael. He got away with it for a term until that term's books were sent home and Mum questioned why he had Michael RealSurname written on some of his books!

My ds at five spent a whole term being called Sonic because he preferred it to his own name. His teacher indulged him and another boy who also wanted to be called sonic so made that boy Sonic 2. I've kept a couple of his books from that time so we can laugh about it with his girlfriends. It passed, I'd not draw attention to it as it might last longer otherwise

It must be a 5 yr old boy thing.
DS spent a while last year telling us he was going to change his name to Rex - I told him he could do it when he was 18 (along with the tattoos he told me he wanted when he was 3!))
He hasn't mentioned it for a while but ask me in 12 years time - DS may have morphed into a strapping 6 footer with a snake tattoo circling his body and answering to the name of Rex :)

I wanted to be a boy at five and spent some time calling myself by boy's names, at home anyway. It passed. He'll forget in about a week and a half.

I wouldn't worry - I doubt it will last. My sister invented herself a middle name in her teens and it probably lasted a similar amount if time as her vegetarian phase - i.e. not long! Relax

My DB chose Pushchair as his middle name - he was 3. Don't worry, your DS will probably change his mind endless times before he is old enough to make anything official

OP, how old is he?

My DD is 5. She loves her middle name, but has given herself a new one. She's told everyone and signed birthday cards with her new name.

Last year she spent a week only being addressed by one name in particular and we had to tell the teacher (who remembered, bless her!)

Many years ago, a friend's little sister (also 5) 'changed her name' to Peter and would only answer to that for ages.

Inventing his own name and telling people is fine.

If it is a name that reminds you of someone you don't like, unfortunately, you're just going to have to live with that! Sorry!

My DS's middle name is Henry, after my dad and well before the prince nicked it off us. But he has always loathed it. When he was little and was asked his name it was "Dxxxx Then-the-bit-I-Don't-Like HintofBream". In his thirties he still never uses it or even just the initial.

I don't have a middle name and told my friends my middle name was Bianca (Bianca FFS!!) when I was a teenager. Just felt a bit left out I suppose!

Morning all! Thanks for the great responses. Apologies for being slightly over sensitive (I was tired). Ok, I'm sure it is just a phase and I'm sure I'll get over it. But honestly, of all the names he could have chosen! Ooooh if you only knew what the original bearer of that name had done..... make yer toe's curl..... not that I'm saying of course...... mutter..... curse..... out of balance? me? How dare you suggest such a thing mojitomania?

Do not let on that you care about this name. He will forget about it soon