To think parents&carers should look after children better at playgroups

[sississy]

I went to a new sure start centre today and it is always the same. At the start everything is lovely but than people start arriving and they don't look after the children properly, don't teach their children how to play nicely and there are toys all over the place creating hazard and I always see children fight and crying for long time (imo) before an adult in charge take notice and tackle the problem...and because they didn't even see what happened, often they can't even solve the problem properly.
I am always teaching the children on my care to pick up the toys they drop on the floor and not to throw toys around in any circumstance. I teach them to leave the toys in the right place while moving from one activity to another. I don't let them take playdough to the sand/water box and I don't let them take the kitchen toys to the book area? What use is a play kitchen full of cars and no play kitchen equipament while the garage is full of animals and dolls??
I am also constantly picking the messy up after them if they fail, I don't want them to triping over and I want they to learn how to be organized, tyde and think about what they are doing....than I wonder if it is worth the hassle doing it at playgroups while everybody else are more worried in chatting and drinking tea...

Why are you so angry at the world?

Every post I've ever seen of yours on here is angry and complaining about something.

Why?

Adults should be keepin a vague eye open for hitting/tantrums etc etc so in that yanbu but the toys being messed up? I literally would not care. Ds put a toy dinosaur in a microwave. Meh.

You need to get a life OP and stop fretting about other peoples.

Sorry meant to add he did that at nursery. Bt random otherwise.

come and see my house everything is in the wrong place and I love it cos it means kids LIVE here. And pans and plates full of sand isn't the end of the world. It's fun. Thats the whole point of PLAYgroups

Children love taking toys to different areas, it is a good use of their imagination. What is a toy teacup to you may be a little grage for a car to a kid or a house for a character. You will go insane if you expect little kids to keep toys to their "designated" areas.

Have a medal. As soon as you get 5, you can get a life :)

When I got out to Surestart it was often the only time I'd have to speak to other grown ups, so I did have a nice little chat with the staff and other parents. The only real rules were only babies in the baby area, don't break toys and don't hurt other children. If my kids followed those rules, I was happy to let them wander and do what they liked, that was the whole point of the setup.

Oh dear. You have to be skilled at keeping a watchful eye on your toddler, talking to friends, drinking tea and really not taking it all too seriously. I think you probably need to chill out a bit and just go with the flow a bit more.

Seriously OP, go and have a brew and a chat. You may relax and enjoy yourself

I quite like DS cooking dollies in frying pans on the wooden kitchen and pushing dinosaurs around in prams, who are we to tell them how to play.

However we had a little cherub today spend 10 mins smacking her mum around the face before she was put down on the floor and told to go and play darrrrling, of course she promtly comes over and starts smacking the other kids around the face Mum had her back to the room by that point. In 10 years I still haven't quite worked out the best way to handle it, tend to just stay very close to my child.

Oh molehill that was mean! I would report you but I can't be arsed.

Well< it always come to a point when everything is so messy and desorganized that is not fun anymore. And tbh I am not there to chat and have a cuppa, I am working so my attention goes all to the children in my care and to the others that no one are taking care of, so they don't hurt mine.

You really really need to unclench or you'll do yourself an injury.

Of course fighting should be dealt with but yabvu to expect toys to stay in their designated areas while children are playing.

Fun for whom? I bet the kids are having a great time!

I am genuinely sorry. No excuse.

Sissy I think you shouldn't go playground if you feel this way... I know what you mean and I couldn't stand playgroups so never bothered. I'm lucky now that I have twins and they can beat up entertain eachother
Or try going to a smaller toddler / baby group?

Playgroup* duh iPhone

With children, everything migrates. I don't often see them complaining about it; just their parents.

YANBU to expect parents to keep a watchful eye on their children but YABU to want to monitor everything the children are doing, and to expect others to do the same.

It sounds a bit OTT, trying to teach them to be organised at a toddler group - that's not what they're for! They're for letting them do their own (supervised) thing, let off some steam while their parents have a cuppa! Of course they need to be prevented from hitting each other or being rude but NOT from taking the toys to different areas! They are not mini-adults, they are children.

Judgey, much? I used to go to a homestart play group with my DD it was lovely because there were play workers there who played with my DD and made me a cup of tea. Is that what your job is OP? fuck me, i hope they didnt judge me like you do the people who go to yoru group. I was a mum battling with PND and that play group was a godsend, it was the only time i felt i could breathe

OP, do you have any children of your own?

are you a child carer? moving toys from one area to another is great for extending their learning. i observed 2 little children taking the pencils to the playdough table, i watched, they were using them to fix the head's on their models. genius, what a shame if their designing and thinking, problem solving etc had been stopped.